I'm experiencing a few issues in regards to the mothers (mine and his).
My parents are paying for the supper, which is absolutely wonderful of them to do, and that gives them most of the leeway on who to invite. Our venue hold 250 people, tops, and we have 255 people on the guest list because Mom wouldn't allow long lost cousins to be cut from the guest list. Instead, she wanted us to cut our friends, which I was ready to do, but FH refused. Don't get me wrong, I want my friends there, but really didn't want such a huge guest list, especially since I'm making all of the invitation packages. She also has told us we're stupid in regards to who is in our wedding party (groomswoman), and that she agreed with my sister (MOH) when she said that our wedding colour look like vomit. The groomswoman wasn't even asked to be in the wedding party, and the colour is now changed to black with fuchsia and orange flowers. I like it, but it wasn't what we originally envisioned. Mom has also been very negative about the wedding, and will change the subject when I start talking about it. She also had much control of the shower list, and has invited the wives of the men she works with. I know these women, and like them, but I kind of didn't want a huge shower, especially since FH and both wanted a small wedding, and well, we're not going to have that! :-o
FMIL seems really excited about our nuptials, but in a bittersweet way. FH currently rents a suite at her house, and she's used to having him around. She relies heavily on him to drive her places, do house or yard work, etc., and she will have to give up the house when he moves as it's just too much for her. She also likes the fact that with him paying rent, she has an income, and she will lose that income when he moves. He is 43, and looking forward to our life together, but she has told him that he shouldn't move into my place until the wedding. She also has brought up more reception place ideas to us, even though we booked our venue in November 2012. She knows this, so why would she continue to suggest? It's weird, but I'm thinking that maybe if we find somewhere else, then our wedding date will get moved to a later time, and FH won't move out so soon…? Invites are printed, and envelopes are stuffed, so nothing is changing, as I'm not redoing those many, many hours of designing, trimming papers and gluing!
Not much more than a rant here, but if anyone has thoughts they'd like to share, feel free, please.
Alesha
