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Colors: Blue/Green/Yellow/White... Mom in FUSCHIA PINK?

jmkiweddingjmkiwedding
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Hi Ladies,

I am planning an August 2013 elegant summer wedding. My bridesmaids are in a jade blue/green dress, with the maid of honor in more of a minty green color, all of the styles are up to them. The flowers (bouquets and centerpieces) are all yellow and white. I asked my mom, stepmom, and future mother in law to try for complimenting colors, staying in the blue, green, even pale yellow family, the shade is entirely up to them.

I've considered myself to be a pretty relaxed and flexible bride, really not that picky. However, my heart sank a bit today when my mom informed me that she wants to wear FUSCHIA PINK. Apparently she brought the blue/green swatches to a store, and the sales lady 100% advised that she goes with a bright, contrasting color, and now my mom 100% agrees. My mom's heart is really set on it, and I'm just not sure what to do or how to react. I'm sure it will looks very nice, but I keep envisioning our photos and everything being overshadowed by a bright pink dress...

Am I over-reacting? Any advice/opinions are welcome!

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    mandi195mandi195
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    You do not get to dictate what guests wear, even your mother. If she's excited, be excited for her; at least she'll be in a dress she's pumped about and looks great in.
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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_colors-bluegreenyellowwhite-mom-in-fuschia-pink?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:8bd0c8d6-a78e-4d4d-bec3-292896849571Post:5936e0e2-d861-49cf-93b7-e8ad27735f65">Colors: Blue/Green/Yellow/White... Mom in FUSCHIA PINK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi Ladies, I am planning an August 2013 elegant summer wedding. My bridesmaids are in a jade blue/green dress, with the maid of honor in more of a minty green color, all of the styles are up to them. The flowers (bouquets and centerpieces) are all yellow and white. I asked my mom, stepmom, and future mother in law to try for complimenting colors, staying in the blue, green, even pale yellow family, the shade is entirely up to them. I've considered myself to be a pretty relaxed and flexible bride, really not that picky. However, my heart sank a bit today when my mom informed me that she wants to wear FUSCHIA PINK. Apparently she brought the blue/green swatches to a store, and the sales lady 100% advised that she goes with a bright, contrasting color, and now my mom 100% agrees. My mom's heart is really set on it, and I'm just not sure what to do or how to react. I'm sure it will looks very nice, but I keep envisioning our photos and everything being overshadowed by a bright pink dress... Am I over-reacting? Any advice/opinions are welcome!
    Posted by jmkiwedding[/QUOTE]

    Yes, you are over-reacting. Parents wear whatever they want. Nobody ever overshadows the bride, in person or in pictures. As Mandi said, she's pumped, which should make you pleased.
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    erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    yes you are over-reacting.  You asked for complimenting color, and pink does go well with your colors--but even besides the point you can't really say what they can and cannot wear.  Let your mom where what she feels good in.  I promise you no one will mistake her for the bride nor will her bright pink dress take attention from you-- YOU are the bride, you will get plenty of attention. Let your mom wear what she wants and pick your battles.  If she looks bad it will reflect on her, not you.   
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    Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    Yes, you're overreacting. You get no say in the attire of anyone but the WP (BMs and GMs). So unless the mothers are in the WP, you can't dictate what they wear. You really shouldn't had even told them to find complimentary colors. They can wear whatever they like and feel comfortable in.


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    MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Sorry, the mothers are people, with feelings. They are not accessories to your wedding decor. The mothers and grandmothers don't have to match or complement each other, your wedding party, your floral arrangements or favors. To suggest that your mother's dress might ruin your photos is extremely insulting.

    What should you do? Tell your mom that you love the dress she picked out and you're sure she will look fantastic in it. Tell the other moms that you're sure whatever they pick to wear will be perfect for them. It's not appropriate for you to dictate colors for them.


                       
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    winelover123winelover123 member
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    Better pink than white.

    Chill out and tell mom you're sure she'll look lovely.
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    Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    I think pink will look great with your colors.  and unless you have sisters as BMs your mom won't even be in any photos with the BMs.  Take a deep breath and realize this doesn't matter even a little bit.  Also call up FMIL and apoloize for directing her and let her know she can wear whatever color she wants.

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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't understand the problem. Yes, you are over reacting.  
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    libby2483libby2483 member
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    Yep, you are definitely overreacting.  FWIW, our wedding colors were blue and yellow, and my mom wore a fuschia dress.  She looked awesome!
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    PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    You let your mother dress herself, all big-girl like.  You know, since she's a big girl n stuff.  She's not 6, nor a barbie, and therefore has an inherant right to look bad or good on her own terms.
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    FancypantsamyFancypantsamy member
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    My flowers were all fuschia pink with bright green berries in them. My inlaws, knowing this, chose brick red for her dress/his tie. Yes, they clashed in the photos. It really wasn't a big deal. I didn't even really think about it until I saw everything coming together and realized "opps, the corsage and bout look really bad with their clothes" - but it didn't bother me, and they were happy with what they wore so that's what mattered. You need to focus on other things. 
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