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May 2013 Weddings

I WANNA SCREAM/CRY **VENT/RANT**

So May 18 is rapidly approaching and our destination Vegas wedding is so close I can touch it!! I am so excited!!! unfortunately, I feel like I have no one to be excited with or for me :-( mommy has been great and I have a childhood friend who, despite being married with 8 kids and a demanding career, has been my rock...the problem is, when I was single and getting over my first marriage, I had a huge circle of friends and family who came to my side to help me heal...now that I am finally happy, these people are falling off. my ex bf not only dropped out of my wedding, she's not even attending and is unsure about coming to the shower this weekend, my other former bf calls after every fight with her fiancée, but has yet to rsvp for any of my wedding festivities, even my ex sister in law who has finally found love again after my brother passed in '09, only wants to talk about her bf and could care less about my day...NOW, my MOH is having problems in her marriage, so when I talk to her the first thing she asks is "are you sure you want to do this? you don't miss being single at all?" WTH?????? I feel like the world around me is depressed and I'm the only one happy...even though I had to get 5 inches added to my gown that I purchased last May, I couldn't be happier or more in love if I tried...WHEW!!! just needed to get that one out...
 

Re: I WANNA SCREAM/CRY **VENT/RANT**

  • The day is about you and your FI! Remember how happy he makes you. I know a lot of people tell me that it's the end of your life when I see It as the beginning. There are so many people feel like because they had bad relationships that they need to bring everyone else down.
    I too have lost touch with a lot of my friend cause I have been with my FI for almost 4 years and we have a child together and it seems like no one has time for my new lifestyle. I don't go out all the time and can't go party all the time so I am not important. At least that is how they make me feel! I guess I feel like they will regret it if they choose not to come...and that's their problem!
    I also had to have my dress made bigger since I got it because of having a baby. It sucked but now that it fits right I am super happy to have it and still love it and can not wait! I have 9 days left until my wedding. I am so excited...and to me that is all that matters!

    Just remember it's about the love you both have for each other and it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say! I hope you feel better.
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  • thanks a lot...I agree, it is just frustrating, especially when theres so much bad news going on that people cant delight in the joyous milestones of life...CONGRATULATIONS to you!!! your baby and family are beautiful!!!!



    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_i-wanna-screamcry-ventrant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:ddeaf437-b487-4d7b-abc8-fd4d23257ed7Post:0e5ddbf0-3876-4a97-9e91-f613666fabe3">Re: I WANNA SCREAM/CRY **VENT/RANT**</a>:
    [QUOTE]The day is about you and your FI! Remember how happy he makes you. I know a lot of people tell me that it's the end of your life when I see It as the beginning. There are so many people feel like because they had bad relationships that they need to bring everyone else down. I too have lost touch with a lot of my friend cause I have been with my FI for almost 4 years and we have a child together and it seems like no one has time for my new lifestyle. I don't go out all the time and can't go party all the time so I am not important. At least that is how they make me feel! I guess I feel like they will regret it if they choose not to come...and that's their problem! I also had to have my dress made bigger since I got it because of having a baby. It sucked but now that it fits right I am super happy to have it and still love it and can not wait! I have 9 days left until my wedding. I am so excited...and to me that is all that matters! Just remember it's about the love you both have for each other and it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say! I hope you feel better.
    Posted by steph8289[/QUOTE]
  • Congrats to you and your dear fiance!!!!!
    I think that when people bring in their bad attitude and feelings about marriage, you have to put up your invisible negative-blocking cloack! 
    If you don't want to hear about others' marriage problems (who does?) then make an excuse to get off the phone as soon as possible. Then remind yourself that you are HAPPY!!!
    Happiness is a choice! And you seem to have made the right choice! It's really about the beginning of your marriage, and that is the most important thing! 

    btw - I love your profile pic!
  • I am so grateful to this site and these boards because otherwise, my poor mama's ears would be bleeding with wedding news and whatnot....lol...thank you so much for your kind words. I am truly taken aback by the negativity. When my ex bff got married, it was smack in the middle of me ending my first marriage, I was a wreck, but I put me aside to share her joy..Smh...but you live and you learn
  • Unfortunately, there's nothing like a huge milestone in life that lets you know who's the real deal and who isn't. At the end of the day, you and FI will be married and that's all that matters- the rest is just filler.
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  • I feel ya! none of my bridesmaids went to my showers...
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