Wedding Dress Undergarments

formerlyCooper · April 2013

Has anyone had a complete change of heart in what undergarments they've decided to wear under their dresses?

I originally bought some nude body slimming shorts and thought that would be good enough, but after receiving my garter set I decided to order thighhigh back seam stockings to wear with the garters. And I just now ordered a retro girdle set from Amazon to wear with the stockings.

I feel like I've jumped down the rabbit hole, but after realizing that people would likely be looking at [some of] my underwear during the garter toss, I had second thoughts and decided to change everything up.

Is this normal behavior? Or do I have bridal brain?

mochietoe · April 2013

I plan on wearing underwear under my dress and maybe a garter (not doing a toss would just be for my FI) so I am no help. I am getting cups sewn in my dress as well.

I personally don't see the point to all that extra stuff. Your dress is going to be hot to begin with, then your adding in extra stuff to keep the heat in. My dress would look funny with a whole bunch of stuff under it though so maybe I am biased.

09McSteph03 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I plan on wearing underwear under my dress and maybe a garter (not doing a toss would just be for my FI) so I am no help. I am getting cups sewn in my dress as well.
Posted by mochietoe[/QUOTE]

<div>This is the extent of what I am doing too. </div>

hardlyhannah · April 2013

I am just planning on wearing a longline bra and pretty underwear for FI - we aren't doing a garter or anything. I agree with mochie about the hott stuff - I don't want to add on anything extra if it's not necessary.

SweetB7 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I plan on wearing underwear under my dress and maybe a garter (not doing a toss would just be for my FI) so I am no help. I am getting cups sewn in my dress as well. I personally don't see the point to all that extra stuff. Posted by mochietoe[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Agreed, this is pretty much what I am doing, pretty underwear, backless bra, but without the garter.

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formerlyCooper · April 2013

All quite practical. I'm all for control underwear. It seems the majority of the ladies who responded aren't doing a garter toss. What are your thoughts on the garter toss and other traditions like the bouquet toss? Is there a reason why you decided for or against them?

09McSteph03 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]All quite practical. I'm all for control underwear. It seems the majority of the ladies who responded aren't doing a garter toss. What are your thoughts on the garter toss and other traditions like the bouquet toss? Is there a reason why you decided for or against them?
Posted by formerlyCooper[/QUOTE]

<div>No garter toss for me because I am modest to a fault. The idea of FI up and under my dress in front of our friends and family is enough to make me a little queezy. </div><div>
</div><div>No bouquet toss for me either. I have 2 women on my entire guest list that are single right now. There are some teenage girls (5 maybe) that would probably get up but dragging my two close friends out in front of everyone while I highlight their loneliness seems mean/embarassing. I have never been excited about a bouquet toss as a guest or as a bride. Also - I want my bouquet and I dont want to have two made.</div><div>
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SewInLoveWithDMB · April 2013

I believe my dress has some type of structure built in that I won't need to wear any type of bra underneath. I plan on wearing a garter, but will not do a garter toss.

I wouldn't worry too much about this - go to your dress fitting and wear what they suggest. You don't want to be uncomfortable or have to many bulky layers underneat your dress, if not needed.

formerlyCooper · April 2013

[QUOTE]I plan on wearing a garter, but will not do a garter toss.I wouldn't worry too much about this go to your dress fitting and wear what they suggest. You don't want to be uncomfortable or have to many bulky layers underneat your dress, if not needed. Posted by SewInLoveWithDMB[/QUOTE]
Luckily the underwear I bought the second time has less bulk than the tummy shaper I'd chosen initially; the only thing I'm really adding is the stockings. I'm glad for them because I'm worried my shoes will chafe and pinch a little after so many hours, and the consensus among lingerie wearers is the garter stays will help keep the girdle from "riding up". Both pluses in my book!

I could see snippet's point to not carrying a bouquet or wearing a garter. For those wearing a garter, are you wearing one out of tradition? What will you do with it after the ceremony? Or do you just throw them away?

thejucheidea · April 2013

I'm just wearing my plain, day-to-day underwear and a strapless bra. I don't think I'm gonna wear anything else, but I might decide on some Spanx for back support.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

I'm going to wear fun undies. Possibly ones that say "Bride" on the butt in crystals, as long as they don't give me a wedgie. I'm also having cups sewn into my dress, and I probably won't be wearing a garter. We're not going to do a toss, so I don't see the point. And also, I have a feeling my FH won't care at all about a garter.

SewInLoveWithDMB · April 2013

I guess I'm wearing a garter out of tradition. Why not? I won't ever really get to wear one again. No idea what I'll do with it after. I found it on etsy and it's lace, with crystals and flowers.

Stina51286 · April 2013

I am also doing just regular underwear that is comfortable and having cups swen into my dress.

I am wearing one garter and not doing a toss. We're doing something different with the garter and bouquet instead of tossing.

formerlyCooper · April 2013

I love seeing what everyone else is doing! :] I think it's great that everyone runs the spectrum traditional to non traditional and that we all have a different way of dealing with the foundation under the dresses. It's refreshing to see people who are doing their own take on what is available to brides as far as options.

SimplyME22 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]All quite practical. I'm all for control underwear. It seems the majority of the ladies who responded aren't doing a garter toss. What are your thoughts on the garter toss and other traditions like the bouquet toss? Is there a reason why you decided for or against them?
Posted by formerlyCooper[/QUOTE]

We're not doing bouquet or garter toss, because I've always found them to be awkward and embarassing when I wasn't engaged and attended weddings. You end up with a lot of people pointing out the women that are in that boat and I didn't want to put people in that position. Not to mention there would be few of them at my wedding as most of my family/friends are engaged or married.

Instead we're doing the shoe game. It's kind of like the newlywed game and we thought it'd be a different idea.

As far as undergarments, I'm planning regular underwear and a strapless longline bra.

libby18bell · April 2013

I bought a built in bra/slip thing. It's a one piece set thing so I can wear that with a bathrobe on top while getting ready before I put my dress on. Funny thing that when I told my aunt where the reception was she commented that the place tends to be rather chilly, so I guess I lucked out there.

shaylagirl · April 2013

I'm wearing a garter, mostly as a nod for my FI's love of his Harley. The garter'll be yellow (like his bike) with the HD emblem on it. He has no idea yet. Mostly it's for him to keep, I am NOT doing a toss. I figure I'll pull him aside privately at some point so he can see, but I'm not letting him creep up beneath my gown and be gross at my family's function!

I'm doing a bouquet toss; but it's for ANYONE to catch, not just the single ladies. Guys, gals, I don't bloody care. Mostly because I think it'd be fun extra for someone to take home (and toss out later), plus the toss bouquet is only $20 if I order it, so...what's an extra $20 at this point in the game, right?

Besides the longline bra, I'm not sure what I'm wearing under my dress. I'm waiting for it to come in before I decide if I want the petticoat too. Not sure what to do about hose. I -know- garters are supposed to hold up your hose, but...I'm thinking if the "stay hold" stuff on thigh high hose doesn't work, a garter doesn't stand a chance, and I'll go NUTS if I keep hiking them up all day. But I'm not sure I want to wear a garter belt too.

I haven't given it a bunch of thought yet. Mostly figuring I'll wait for the dress and go from there.

libby18bell · April 2013

Oh I completely forgot about a tip I heard from my sister. I guess she heard from some place. So since our feet will swell as the night goes on and our shoes won't be the most comfortable things, at least we hope that doesn't happen. Anyways, you start out the day wearing your shoes with socks on. I guess by the end of thd day you take the socks off and your shoes feel better with more give for your feet. My shoes are peeptoe so i haven't decided if I'm going to try this out, I might at the reception since nobody will see my feet.

Xandy417 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Wedding Dress Undergarments : I don't see the point of doing those. I have said this in other post, but at weddings I have been to in the past few years no one does them. Or if they do, no one wants to catch either items. <strong>I am not having a bouquet at my wedding, so no bouqet toss here either.</strong>
Posted by snippet17[/QUOTE]

<div>Out of curiosity, are you carrying something else? Or just having nothing.</div>

Xandy417 · April 2013

I am wearing a longline bra and regular underwear. My dress is A-line but I don't want it to be really poofy so I am considering not wearing a crinoline slip as was suggested by the bridal salon. I haven't decided yet.

No garter for me. Incidentally I am not doing a bouquet toss either mostly because I hated being single at my friend's reception and being expected to go out there with all...three...other single girls. I am thinking about giving my bouquet to one of the grandmothers or something as I cannot take it home because my cat will eat it.

formerlyCooper · April 2013

[QUOTE]We're not doing bouquet or garter toss, because I've always found them to be awkward and embarassing when I wasn't engaged and attended weddings. You end up with a lot of people pointing out the women that are in that boat and I didn't want to put people in that position. by SimplyME22[/QUOTE]
This would be my primary protest against the garter and bouquet tosses. I think they can be fun if they're a tradition in a given social circle, but other people pointing out singles and forcing them to participate is another matter entirely.

Our DJ is doing the Shoe Game, and I'm talking with my fiance about giving the bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest. I'm thinking of proposing a similar game with the garter.

I attended a wedding last year where all singles were forced up for the bouquet and garter tosses. FI and I were all ready engaged. FI caught the garter, but he was forced to give it to someone else once the DJ found out he was engaged. I was thinking "WTF were we forced to get up in front of everyone for then?"

SimplyME22 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]This would be my primary protest against the garter and bouquet tosses. I think they can be fun if they're a tradition in a given social circle, but other people pointing out singles and forcing them to participate is another matter entirely. Our DJ is doing the Shoe Game, and I'm talking with my fiance about giving the bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest. I'm thinking of proposing a similar game with the garter. I attended a wedding last year where all singles were forced up for the bouquet and garter tosses. FI and I were all ready engaged. FI caught the garter, but he was forced to give it to someone else once the DJ found out he was engaged. I was thinking "WTF were we forced to get up in front of everyone for then?"
Posted by formerlyCooper[/QUOTE]

I've considered doing the anniversary dance and having what would be a "toss bouquet' for the couple, but I think it would end up being my gparents and I'm already getting them flowers...

formerlyCooper · April 2013

[QUOTE]I am thinking about giving my bouquet to one of the grandmothers or something as I cannot take it home because my cat will eat it. Posted by Xandy417[/QUOTE]
The cats are my primary reason for not bringing home flowers from the wedding also!

I have to admit before everyone mentioned long line bras, I had no idea what they were and had to google it.

formerlyCooper · April 2013

[QUOTE]I've considered doing the anniversary dance and having what would be a "toss bouquet' for the couple, but I think it would end up being my gparents and I'm already getting them flowers... Posted by SimplyME22[/QUOTE]
This would be my one concern also. I am getting my grandmother a corsage, so I wouldn't feel too badly if she and my grandpa took home the bouquet, but I am worried about leaving FI's family out of the spotlight.

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