Well, the lectures and tense feelings that I have been feeling my dad finally said what hes been thinking. FI and I should have just went to the JOP instead of having anyone there. ::sighs::
I have been feeling really uneasy about getting remarried and having a "big" wedding but FI really wanted one. Its expensive, we just bought a total rehab house after our house fire, and we are literally starting over with each other in a new life. New jobs, new career paths, new home, etc and I caved and decided to give FI his dream wedding. (Yes we tell him all the time about how he is getting his "pretty princess day" and he loves it.) FI has been working out of town a lot and doesnt ask for much so when he does ask, I tend to give him whatever he wants.
We are having a Methodist ceremony (1st wedding ExH was "atheist" so we were married by the mayor), a large reception in a nice hall with a really excellent caterer, and doing all the little things I did not do with the first wedding that FI feels is really important to him and us both as a couple.
I mean, I could honestly say my first wedding was really small with maybe 20 family members showing up because they did not support what we were doing. I was not happy about anything with the first wedding. I wanted to get married in a church ExH wouldnt have it, I wanted to get married in my hometown ExH wouldnt have it, I wanted to get married on the river ExH wouldnt have it, and so on and so on.
I know there is nothing I can do about it. I mean I am hurt but I wont tell anyone just went home and had a good cry. I didnt want to be divorced and wish I wouldnt have gotten married the first time but I was in "lurve" and everyone, including my dad at the time, was pressuring me to get married and kept saying I was a lesbian because I wasnt. Not to mention the I needed to hurry up and have kids because my biological clock was ticking argument. I am the last of my cousins to be married (well remarried now) and the only one without kids and I am one of the older ones.
::sighs:: I dont know. I cant wait until its all over.