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Poor FH...Kinda long..HELP!

KrystalFigKrystalFig
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So my wedding is on May 17th and we sent out invitations out about 2 weeks ago. We started receiving them back which my FH is having a blast he says its a surprise everytime ge gets the mail. 
Well this Monday we got back the RSVP back from his dad, step-mom and little sister where they just signed their name and didnt RSVP yes or no. Mind you his parents are very weird. So I told him if your parents arent going there is going to be an issue granted its not his fault. 
So he calls his dad and his dad says no they werent going that they were very tight with money. My FH said ok and hung up. I am very upset because dude you received the invitation 2 months before the wedding and your seriously telling me you cant gather some money for a tux and a gown from here to there. Thats such BS! 
My FH is 1 of 6 and all of them have come out bad and he's the only one who actually came out to be the "good child". Lets put it like this his dad calls him his oxygen because he's such a good son. Heck my FH even lent his dad his credit to buy a car a couple of years back. 
So I'm over here like super pisted off because how is it your "supposedly favorite" son and your not coming to his wedding? My FH offered to pay for his dad's tux, his step mom and little sisters dresses but he said NO because they dont want to look rediculous. To me they look like crap because how is it you dont have money but everytime we go to their house they just bought a new TV. 
I dont know how they can do this to not only us but their son!
I havent asked for anyones help during the whole wedding planning process and havent been a bridezilla but this situation made me blow up. I told my FH not to expect me to go to their house and not expect me not to bring this up. 
I feel so bad for my FH is step-mom who was supposed to walk him down the isle (now his gma is) and his dad the only manly figure in his life isnt going to his once in a lifetime thing.
I mean my mom which lives 2 1/2 hours away isnt working because she was diagnosed with cancer back in Oct is scraping money to go to her only daughters wedding.
How should i be reacting? Should I call them? Should I never bring it up? I just dont know what to do.
I need other people's opinion. HELP!
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  • MamaBear904MamaBear904 member
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    Is there a possibility that the "money issues" are just covering up a bigger reason why they cannot attend? Im sure your FH is really hurt by the news, and I think its best that you support your FH at this time, not dig the wound deeper. If you do go to their house, respect your FH enough not to bring it up unless he does. Has the dad gone to the other son's weddings? Maybe he doesn't want to play favorites and the other sons would be hurt by dad attending your FH's wedding and not the others? It just sounds like there is more going on and I would personally try my best not to add fuel to the fire.
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    If they're as weird as you say they are, they may actually be doing you a favor by not coming- as awful as that sounds. The last thing you need is more potential drama.

    I wouldn't bring it up, that'll only backfire on you. Also, I think that would make an already horrible situation go completely out of control. If anything, it would be more appropriate for your FI to go to them about this. I also think you and FI need to have a serious talk on how to define your guys' relationship with his family once you're married since they don't appear to be reasonable people and will continue to drag you both down.


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    In Response to Re:Poor FH...Kinda long..HELP!:[QUOTE]If they're as weird as you say they are, they may actually be doing you a favor by not coming as awful as that sounds. The last thing you need is more potential drama.I wouldn't bring it up, that'll only backfire on you. Also, I think that would make an already horrible situation go completely out of control. If anything, it would be more appropriate for your FI to go to them about this. I also think you and FI need to have a serious talk on how to define your guys' relationship with his family once you're married since they don't appear to be reasonable people and will continue to drag you both down. Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]

    What an unfortunate situation. I agree with both previous posters. What do they mean by they don't want to look ridiculous? Seriously?
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