Bridesmaid gifts... HELP

MrsH86 · April 2013

Hi ladies,

I have 7 bridesmaids. 1 is my sister. One is the groom's sister. The rest are my friends. 2 of my friends are lesbian couple.. one of which is not feminine. She will be wearing pants/shirt at the wedding as opposed to a dress. I am trying to figure out practical gifts to give them. Looking for multiple ideas... most of the ideas I have thought of on my own.. jewelry, robes, and other things all seem super feminine. I'd like to get them something they will use and enjoy.

Is it ok to give everyone a basket with different items? Or should I try to figure out something they will all enjoy? Do I need to get my sister (MOH) something additional or special?

Thanks for the advice!

AddieCake · April 2013

What does her sexual orientation have to do with the gift you get her? Get them things you would get them for their birthdays or Christmas. They don't have to be all the same.

FizzySips · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-gifts-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:c56a5981-f749-4267-b1da-ce6ed2ead876Post:8dffdeb4-eb36-4199-886b-2948f5133641">Re: Bridesmaid gifts... HELP</a>:
[QUOTE]What does her sexual orientation have to do with the gift you get her? Get them things you would get them for their birthdays or Christmas. They don't have to be all the same.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

So she can buy it from the "lesbian" section of the store, of course!

Snark aside, why is it so hard for people to select gifts for their wedding party? These people are your friends! Buy them something that they will appreciate/need/want/use!

MrsH86 · April 2013

I meant all the other girls would wear dangly earrings or a necklace... she probably wouldnt appreciate it as much. I meant to say that the 2 in my wedding party are a couple, so I wouldnt want to lets say.. get them something for their home that might end up with them having 2. (thought about getting scentsy warmers or something) So I just want the gifts to be something anyone would enjoy. I am trying to get some creative ideas....

itzMS · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I meant all the other girls would wear dangly earrings or a necklace... she probably wouldnt appreciate it as much. I meant to say that the 2 in my wedding party are a couple, so I wouldnt want to lets say.. get them something for their home that might end up with them having 2. (thought about getting scentsy warmers or something) So I just want the gifts to be something anyone would enjoy. I am trying to get some creative ideas....
Posted by SarahMichele26[/QUOTE]

You buy them each something individual. I don't even know your friends, and I can do it.

Here's what I'd get for my imaginary seven bridesmaids. Piece of cake.

BM 1: Bottle of her favorite wine and a nice decanter or set of wine glasses
BM 2: Gift card to Itunes and new set of earphones
BM 3: Handbag, clutch, or wristlet from her favorite designer
BM 4: Subscription to Birchbox or giftcard to Sephora
BM 5: Bluray set of a TV series she loves
BM 6: Giftcard to Amazon and an accessory/case for her Kindle
BM 7: Tickets to a show/concert/sporting event

AddieCake · April 2013

If someone is in your wedding party, you presumably know them quite well. So you should get them things you know they are into and would like.

Summer2011Bride · April 2013

Ditto getting them each something they would like and enjoy, even if that means buying 7 entirely different gifts.

I don't think the MOH has to get anything extra unless you want to. If her gift is going to be obviously much more expensive and elaborate than the others', I would make sure to give her the extra part in private. For instance, you wouldn't want to hand her an iPad and give another girl a Scentsy. Try to keep each around the same price range to avoid that situation, but otherwise, shop for them separately.

MrsH86 · April 2013

Thank you all for your advice. I definitely wasnt trying to sound offensive about the 'lesbian' part... I just wanted to say that 2 of the bridesmaids are a couple and one isnt girly. I wanted to get them something special, or sentimental... but not 'girly' like personailzed jewelry or robes. 6 out of the 7 bridesmaids would like that, but I dont want the other one to feel left out. My sister is my maid of honor, and she is throwing my parties and helping me plan, so she is definitely 100% more helpful when it comes to all of that, so I felt like maybe she deserved something more due to all of her efforts? I do know what they enjoy... I was just trying to think of some ideas that were a little more heartfelt, or unique? Just looking for some interesting ideas!

Summer2011Bride · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Thank you all for your advice. I definitely wasnt trying to sound offensive about the 'lesbian' part... I just wanted to say that 2 of the bridesmaids are a couple and one isnt girly. I wanted to get them something special, or sentimental... but not 'girly' like personailzed jewelry or robes. 6 out of the 7 bridesmaids would like that, but I dont want the other one to feel left out. My sister is my maid of honor, and she is throwing my parties and helping me plan, so she is definitely 100% more helpful when it comes to all of that, so I felt like maybe she deserved something more due to all of her efforts? I do know what they enjoy..<strong>. I was just trying to think of some ideas that were a little more heartfelt, or unique? Just looking for some interesting ideas!</strong>
Posted by SarahMichele26[/QUOTE]

It's just hard, almost impossible, for us to give you specific ideas beyond "give them what they would like" because we do not know your BMs like you do. So we have no idea what their interests, hobbies, and likes are. That's why the best we can say is, "Shop as if it was their birthday."

Good luck! I'm sure you'll come up with some great ideas.

MrsH86 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I got this bag ( <a href="http://www.thirtyonegifts.com/Catalog/Product/27/index.html)" rel="nofollow">http://www.thirtyonegifts.com/Catalog/Product/27/index.html)</a> for my BMs and used that to stuff the other gifts I got for them individually. They liked it because they can put a lot of stuff in the bag on the go.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Great idea!!! That would be something everyone could use!</div>

FizzySips · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid gifts... HELP : You buy them each something individual. I don't even know your friends, and I can do it. Here's what I'd get for my imaginary seven bridesmaids. Piece of cake. BM 1: Bottle of her favorite wine and a nice decanter or set of wine glasses BM 2: Gift card to Itunes and new set of earphones BM 3: Handbag, clutch, or wristlet from her favorite designer BM 4: Subscription to Birchbox or giftcard to Sephora BM 5: Bluray set of a TV series she loves BM 6: Giftcard to Amazon and an accessory/case for her Kindle BM 7: Tickets to a show/concert/sporting event
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

Damn! Those are great gifts. Can I be in your wedding? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

itzMS · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid gifts... HELP : Damn! Those are great gifts. Can I be in your wedding?
Posted by Rachaellennon[/QUOTE]

Haha. My imaginary bridal party! You're in!

It is pretty funny how I could come up with 7 individual gifts for "imaginary" people, but brides themselves can't do it for their own friends.

Only on TK.

aquari0216 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I meant all the other girls would wear dangly earrings or a necklace... she probably wouldnt appreciate it as much. I meant to say that the 2 in my wedding party are a couple, so I wouldnt want to lets say.. get them something for their home that might end up with them having 2. (thought about getting scentsy warmers or something) So I just want the gifts to be something anyone would enjoy. I am trying to get some creative ideas....
Posted by SarahMichele26[/QUOTE]

I apologize for the UNNECESSARY smart ass comments...it annoys me but just buy what you think each girl would like individually...something youd get them for their birthday

PMC9006 · April 2013

There are great Bridesmaid gift options through Stella & Dot Jewelry and now they have BAGS!

www.stelladot.com/paigecofnas

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