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First Dance-Before or After Dinner?

sarag8rsarag8r
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So my soon-to-be-hubby wanted to do the first dance after dinner but I've only ever been to one wedding where the first dance wasn't right after the introductions, so basically the first thing.  I opted to go with his plan  but I was just wondering what everyone else was doing!  Seems that possibly it's a geographical thing.  It seems odd to me to do it that way so it'd be nice to hear from others who are.  Thanks!
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    jenniferbritojenniferbrito member
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    I think its ok to do it either way. Personally we are going to go right in to our first dance after intoruductions then start dinner after the first dance.
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    alenahamlinalenahamlin member
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    We are dancing after dinner because once I am out there I want to get the party started.  I have seen couples dance after introductions which is nice too but I personally prefer to start the dancing right after dinner. 
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    SwazzleSwazzle member
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    I've only ever seen the couple dance pretty much right after they're introduced. So, the DJ or whomever introduces the new Mr. and Mrs., they enter and go right into their first dance. This is what we'll be doing but we also don't have a sit down dinner/buffet (we're having an endless cocktail hour).

    How will it work with doing it after dinner? I'm sure it doesn't matter either way, I'm just trying to understand how the flow of events will be in your case. 



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    Annas2013Annas2013 member
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    Ours is going to be before dinner, right after the introduction.  Just so that we can go ahead and get it done and not awkwardly stand up after we eat to start dancing.
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    brookefowlerbrookefowler
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    We are doing before dinner also. I just want to open the dance floor as soon as possible and we are also a bit nervous to be in the spotlight in that way.
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    jessicaemery30jessicaemery30
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    We are doing after dinner. Our cake will be placed on the dance floor, so we will cut the cake before dinner, and then do all the dances after dinner. I agree with alenahamli, we will get the party started right after we do all of the dances (first dance, mother/son, etc.)!
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    HoneyBunny13HoneyBunny13
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    I'm not sure yet what we are doing. We aren't having a cocktail hour. We're starting the reception right after the ceremony and it's a buffet style bbq thing. We did tell the caterer that we wanted to go through the line first so we have a few minutes to eat. So yeah..I guess it would be awkward if we started dancing while people were in lne still or just starting to eat. But we don't really want to do all the dances at once and then eat. And I feel like it would be worse if we just made everyone go sit down and wait to get their food until after we've danced and gotten ours.
    I guess at this point I'm leaning towards us eating, maybe a little bit of mingling and greeting, then our first dance(s) when pretty much everyone is at least sitting back down, and then cake cutting and then the general dancing starting.
    Our wedding is on a Sunday evening so we aren't expecting a huge/long party. The bar will be closed before 10 for sure.
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    sarag8rsarag8r
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    I guess we are having introductions and then going to eat, which is buffet.  Then we'll have toasts, cut the cake, do our first dance and then, as we are skipping the father/daughter and mother/son dance (whoel other story) we'll go right into "We Are Family" and drag relatives ontot eh dance floor.  It makes me more comfortable with the idea knowing it's not just in my FH's head!
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    SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    I've only seen it after dinner, and like a few others I know once I'm out there I wanna get the party started!
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    VJones1981VJones1981 member
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    We will be doing our first dance right after we are introduced. After that, dinner service will start and we will have toasts. After dinner, K will dance with his mom. Then his dad will join her and we will open up the dance floor. His mother wanted a special dance with his dad, so this was our compromise. We will let her pick the first song and they will get to be the first on the dance floor.
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    pends123pends123 member
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    I don't think it is a big deal at all how the order of events are, but personally I like the flow of introductions, dinner, cake cutting, first dance, then getting the party started.  I already know I'm going to be ready to eat after hours of getting ready, the ceremony, and taking pictures so I would want to dig right into the food and then mingle.  I've only been to a few weddings, but I feel like the dancing should all be together.  Its all up to the bride and groom though! :)

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    emenz47emenz47
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    I've only seen before dinner so that is what we are doing. :) after would be fine too though I think.
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    aprahamian2aprahamian2
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    We are doing it as soon as we walk in because that way everyone will probably be paying attention.
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    unclaimedpantsunclaimedpants member
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    We're doing it after dinner. I don't want people to have to wait to eat.
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    AliceBarakAliceBarak member
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    We're doing it before dinner. Dancing after eating is not a suitable option.
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    devilsindevilsin
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    I think we r going to break it up by doing our parents dances first right after introductions, then after we eat sit down dinner my F and i will,have our first dance to open the floor for everyone
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