My sister got engaged back in September 2012. She immediately asked me to be her MOH. I, of course, said yes. She lives in California and I moved to Washington 2 years ago. Her wedding is in a week.
It has been very difficult and expensive to plan the bridal shower and bachelorette. Thankfully, I have had some help from a couple of my sister's friends, one of whom my sister finally decided to be part of the wedding. Up until March, I was the only brides maid. I have spent all of my tax return on flights, parties, etc., not to mention tons of time looking for dresses (She has changed her mind several times and didn't land on anything solid until last Sunday!).
Then, at the bachelorette party last Saturday, my sister tells me that she and her guy already got married in December! She is keeping this a secret from the rest of my family and her friends. I don't mind that she is already married. What bothers me is that she kept it a secret and now wants me to keep it a secret myself. I feel terrible about keeping this from my family and even worse about standing up at a church and pretending that they are not married already. I would never tell my family, it is not my place to, and it would be more hurtful than helpful to say anything at this point. But I resent her for putting me in this situation. Is it wrong of me to pull out as MOH and just attend the "wedding?" I really don't know what to do!