Bridal Party Drama

Re: Bridal Party Drama

• saric83 member

  

  April 2013 edited April 2013

  <div align="left">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-drama-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:a2f266f2-74b4-44ce-b08c-08477f215baaPost:2e50f4f6-69ba-41ba-858a-670e40bfce47">Bridal Party Drama</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have never had drama in my life or with my friends.  Suddenly, when my bridal shower is being planned, my one best friend is creating huge drama when my sister and other best friend tell her that my wishes are different than what she has planned.  She even went as far as saying she's not sure she should be in my wedding.  I know not to take this literally but <strong>I keep telling her to have no worries and let them handle it, that it's fine.</strong>  I just can't let it go that she's so terribly upset over it all.  This is all supposed to be fun and a celebration!  Ugh.Posted by KellyM428[/QUOTE]
  
  You shouldn't be involved in the planning of your own shower whatsoever!  If I were her, I would be incredibly upset with you too because the bolded part insinuates something as rude as, "Well, what you were working on and spent your time and money isn't good enough for me, but don't you worry because I have other people who will take care of it since you suck at doing it the way I want."
  
  Try to think about how you would feel if you were in her place....
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• Peledreamsofrain member

  

  April 2013

  Leave the girl be to plan your shower.   It's a gift, and just like any other gift, when you start criticizing it, and complaining that you wanted something different, it's hurtful and rude to the giver.

  
  

  
  

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• Pookieson member

  

  April 2013

  Your friend is paying and planning?  Then she gets to decide.  If she ASKS for input, you can give her some...but other than that, it's her thing.  It is a gift, you shouldn't be involved at all. 

  

  June 1, 2013 - finally making it official!

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• aquari0216 member

  

  April 2013

  is she paying for it? or are they putting in on it....i believe my entire bridal party decided to split the cost.....if shes the only one paying they need to stay in their lane and out of her way

  ****The Future Mrs. Ikeard****

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• wegsmom member

  

  April 2013

  I would agree that the hostest should make decisions on what and how to host, but certainly input from the bride or immediate family should come into play if what the hostest plans conflicts with the brides beliefs, morals, etc.  The OP wasn't specific on the exact nature of the conflict.
  
  Best wishes on a happy marriage.
  

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• KellyM428

  

  April 2013

  I completely agree with all of you that said that I should be grateful that she is/they are  doing this for me and not be involved in the planning.  HOWEVER, she and the other bridal party members chose to involve me.  They had not planned anything (it's now two months til the wedding) and people were asking if I was having a shower.  There is not one specific person in charge of it and when my one BFF decided to have it at a place that my other BFF knew was a bad idea, she intervened.  BFF #1 had not told anyone that she had made plans and we are not sure that she actually did... I think it's just all down to a last minute planning fiasco.  The original "plans" were that we go to a restaurant on my birthday.    I pulled a brideszilla and put my foot down on that idea.  No, thank you.  The next option was one week before the wedding date.  Destination wedding date.  YIKES!  Anyway, I think at this point things are in the works and there will be a party but I needed to vent and I feel like my relationship with BFF #1 will be uncomfortable from here on out.  I hate this part!  Other than that, wedding plans are just about done and VERY excited!!!

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• KellyM428

  

  April 2013

  Oh and to answer more questions:  no one specifically is in charge of this and they would all be splitting the cost. 

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• hockeywithadiamond member

  

  April 2013

  There is no rule that you HAVE to have a shower.  It's sounding like you expected one and when one hadn't been planned 2 months out you stepped in?

  
  

  They could have tried to involve you but the polite thing to say would have been, Thank you for working together to throw me a shower and whatever is planned sounds wonderful.  

  
  

  Really, there shouldn't be drama surrounding an optional pre-wedding event like this.  I say drop the matter completely and just enjoy your wedding.

   

   

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