My MOH out of state about 3 hours away. I realize that she won't be able to help with some stuff and I don't by any means expect her to come here ever weekend but she's not really stepping up to her duties. She came out here for one dress shopping event and a bridal show and seemed really excited but now as the day is getting closer she seems distant and not excited anymore. I will be having 2 showers in June and when I called and told her the dates she said she would "try" to make our family one but she's not sure if she can... I understand her not making both showers since she lives so far away but I am not ok with her missing both! . Also every time I call to ask her advice or get her opinion she just turns the question back to me asking what I want. How do I get her to help me without getting upset and turning into a bridezilla or worse starting a war?