So...what are you doing here?

tessajdhSMC · April 2013

Hey guys, for those of you who aren't engaged, what brought you to the knot? Not judging anyone, just genuinely curious. How did you find the knot? Why did you join? What keeps you coming back?

For me, I was a member of the knot back in 2005 when I was previously engaged. The engagement ended badly and I deleted my account. Now I'm in a serious relationship and marriage has been talked about extensively. He said it's happening, I just don't know when, lol. We're also going to be paying for the wedding ourselves, so I mainly rejoined to start re-pricing vendors in my area and get an idea of what everything is going to cost. I'm trying very hard not to do much "planning" until I actually have a ring on my finger, but just enough to get a good idea of the costs in my area. I was excited to find the "Not Yet Engaged" forum and look forward to finding out more about others who are in the same boat I am.

bethsmiles · April 2013

I've been on here so long it's hard to remember. But I was 19 years old, had just moved to a different state for my BF of less than a year, and we were talking about marriage - I was probably at least a little BSC. The ladies here give me perspective and make sure I don't jump on the crazy train.

Now I'm 22, still not engaged, but very happy with my BF because the women here keep me from being a crazy lady

I stay because these women have become my friends.

Shiroyasha · April 2013

I started lurking around 2011 because I started a job as an event coordinater and wanted to get ideas for the brides who would come in. I never really left afterwards, even after I left that job.

thejucheidea · April 2013

I used to come here as a teenager to look at wedding dresses when my friend Heather and I talked about wedding stuff as stupid teenagers. I wandered back when my boyfriend (now fiance) and I started talking about getting married after he got the ring back in May 2011. He finally proposed last November and I continue to hang around because why the hell not.

Neverthebride111 · April 2013

I joined when my older sister got engaged so I could look up wedding stuff. I was 8 hours away and I thought knowing my wedding stuff might help me be a helpful MOH.

I stayed because...I like parties? And it's nice to look sometimes. Weddings are pretty.

peekaboo2011 · April 2013

I started lurking back in 2007 when my then BF and I started dating. I actually started posting early 2011, a few months before we got engaged.

I've stuck around because these ladies have become my friends and helped me through that really nasty breakup. I'm with someone new, we have a nice life plan, and I just can't quit these boards.

Swazzle · April 2013

I am engaged but I wasn't when I started posting here. I had just gotten back from vacation with my FI (then BF) and he suggested we go look at rings together. I was looking at different styles on TK and came across the message boards and ended up posting for ring-shopping advice when I found NEY. I got engaged a few months later and decided to stick around because some of my best friends are here.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

I'm engaged but when I first joined The Knot it was back in November (I believe). One of my friends of college told me about it and it was around November when FI and I started dscussing marriage. I was looking around at rings and also at the message boards and I stumbled upon NEY. I would say these boards keep me sane at work and also offer great advice to every day life questions whether it's wedding related or not.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

I first came around in 2009 (with a different s/n that I changed for security reasons) when H and I were dating. I stick around because I like the entertainment during the day, and it's a fun way to meet people.

cu97tiger · April 2013

I first came around at the end of 2011. My then BF (now DH) and I had started talking about getting married and I was all-aboard the BSC-train. The ladies here talked me down and kept me sane while I waited eight long months until we got engaged. I stick around because some of these people have become my IRL friends, and we share loves of wine and cheese.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

I joined in 2008 when I was a BM for one of my girlfriends. There was some sort of free dress giveaway and she'd asked us all to sign up for that. I found NEY a little later and really liked talking to all these ladies. They've kept me sane, made me laugh and have been a huge support over the years. Now FI and I are 2 months out from our wedding and I can't believe how much my life has changes since I first started posting!

Hummingbird125 · April 2013

I started lurking early last year after a coworker told me she spent all her time on TK. I was a little over a year into my first serious relationship and was seriously thinking about marriage for the first time ever. I joined and started posting in the spring of 2012 after started a work-from-home job. I no longer had coworkers to chat with all day long, so I figured NEY would be a good replacement. It is!!!

I'm still NEY, and probably will be for a while, but even when I get engaged I know I'll hang around here, because these gals are awesome.

doubleSS07 · April 2013

I started posting in 2011 after one of my BFF's got engaged and asked me to be a bridesmaid. She desperately wanted help planning and I'd been BSC about my own relationship so I was happy to do it. I checked out NEY for myself thinking I was going to find a bunch of ladies all giddy about planning a wedding because we just KNEW we'd be engaged at any second! Instead I found a bunch of awesome ladies who had many many other things to talk about. I am now engaged and stick around because I love this group!

GoldenPenguin · April 2013

My story is similar to the others. I was in my best friend's wedding back in 2009 and signed up so I could help her look for stuff. I was inactive for a long time, until I started dating someone & he told me he wanted me to send him pictures of rings that I liked. That was when I found NEY. That relationship ended, badly, and these ladies helped me through it, because they are AMAZING. I am now in another relationship, which I hope leads to marriage someday, but that's not why I'm here. I'm here because some of my best friends are here, and I can't imagine life without them.

motoLyn · April 2013

I joined back in August of 2010, just after my now husband had bought the engagement ring and I was beginning to look into how to plan a destination wedding and also get help with being patient with waiting for the proposal. I've stuck around since then because my friends all live in my computer screen.

jemmini6 · April 2013

I joined when my sister got engaged and was on the wedding party boards to get ideas for her bachelorette party/bridal shower. I was living with my now husband, and saw the NEY board, so figured it'd be a fun place to talk to other women who were in a serious relationships, but not quite planning a wedding.

Then of course, I've since gotten engaged, married, and have now been married almost a year and a half, but these ladies are awesome, so I stuck around. :-)

kelley198721 · April 2013

I started lurking around November 2012 but didn't start posting until a few months ago. I lurked because I was starting to seriously fall in love with BF and I had weddings on the brain thanks to everyone I knew getting engaged/married.

So with guilt, I created an account but swore that I wouldn't do anything more than lurk. I was determined not to be one of those crazy girls that actually started pre-planning. Then once BF and I got more serious, we started talking about marriage.

Then I decided that it was okay to start posting.

s-aries8990 · April 2013

I started lurking in 2010 because looking at wedding stuff was so much more appealing than doing my college homework.

I'm here now because I like the people here and am learning a lot from them.

csswenso · April 2013

My sister is getting married in October and I came here to get ideas about helping her plan her wedding. Although I am not yet engaged my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we have been talking about it. We are trying to wait for a good time though. I am stil lin school working on my Masters, and he is hoping to go back to school soon. Financially we are not ready, but I want to be prepared when the time comes.

KateJ16 · April 2013

I have a friend who is newly engaged, which of course sparked the wedding bug in me as well. My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage pretty seriously, so I'm starting to wander around and see what could potentially be out there for when the time is right

FreeSpirit666 · April 2013

I joined in 2010-2011 after a co-worker got engaged, thought 2012 would be the year, it wasn't, now thinking it might be 2014. (to get engaged, lol) I love weddings, and would crash a few if i had the nerve lol

thejinxchan · April 2013

I joined a loooong time ago (as it says under my username) to help plan a friend's wedding, opened another SN and posted when I was in a relationship that ended badly, and only recently came back after lurking on and off frequently now that I am in a very happy relationship. BF and I haven't been together long (almost a year) but we are meant for each other. He's coming to the US (we live in Dubai) to meet my family and ask my brother for blessing, then after the trip we will start looking at ring options and gathering funds. We've already decided we want to settle back in the US and have kids there when we are done with Dubai.

richellesmiley · April 2013

About a year ago I was engaged so I was a member of the knot but that fell apart so I deleted my account. Then one day I got bored and made a new account. Now I am dating a wonderful guy and even though it has only been a few months topics of marriage and a future are continually popping up.

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