July 2013 Weddings

Getting RSVPs back with NO NAMES!

Hi ladies! Just thought I'd share with you a little problem that we have run into... in the hopes that you can learn from our mistake and avoid this headache yourselves!

My Fiance and I had a short engagement and did not send out Save the Dates. But, because we are getting married 5 hours away from our hometown, and 98% of our guestlist will be traveling... we decided to send our invites out a bit early to give everyone plenty of time to make their travel arrangements.

Our wedding is July 13th. And we sent our invites out April 12th. 

We have since gotten quite a few RSVPs back with many people attending (yay!)... buuuuut a number of people have neglected to write their names on the RSVPS before sending them back to us!  They have all filled out the 'number of people attending' box, but left the name line blank. So now we know  how MANY people will be coming... but we don't know who these people are. And if I don't know who is coming, I certainly can't make a proper seating chart. Yell

It's an honest mistake and oversight on the part of our guests, but it's still very frusrtating!

If I could go back in time, I would either write the guests names on their RSVPs card myself... or, 'code' each invite (with a little, inconspicuous number written on a corner of each rsvp card) and match that to a list that I kept on hand here at home. This way, when the rsvps came in, I simply match their number with the list I had on hand and- VOILA- I would know who is came from.

Just wanted to share this little experience with those of you who have not yet sent your invites! 

Re: Getting RSVPs back with NO NAMES!

  • Yeah, I suspected that could happen. I ended up getting an invisible ink pen so nobody but FI and I know there's anything there. Then if someone forgets their name, we just look up their RSVP # with the special light :)

    Good luck tracking down your guests!!
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  • We thought of that but it was too late. The invites were already sealed and ready to go. I am hoping that we don't get too many so we can figure it out (or none fingers crossed).
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  • I just wrote a number in purple ink in the bottom corner. They will see it, but since most have been married, Im sure they will understand what its for, lol.

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    151 invitedimage [ Invited]
     78 attendingimage [ Said Yes!]
     73 declinedimage [ Are Party Poopers]
     0 unknownimage [ Can't Find the Mailbox]
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  • Honestly, I was thinking it was a waste of time to do this but after hearing everyone's horror stories, I think I'll number RSVPs today lol.
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  • im just going to accept it, itll happen. I dont feel like touching (probably messing up) the invites )=
  • Yeah....I heard that it happens a lot!!! People don't write their names!!! Which to me is so weird!!!!!
    I did a small number on the back in pencil.....and my friend had to convince me to do it because I wasn't going to!

    Best of luck with the seating chart and figuring out that fun puzzle! 
  • Wow...I wish you well with figuring out who's who! I am in the process of addressing invites now...I am definitely going to make sure that I place a number in the corner of the response cards.
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  • Our RSVP cars are designed a bit differently than most, so I ended up putting the number of seats we have reserved and the names of each guest. This way there isnt any confusion as to people not putting their name down. Or people adding more names than we invited. 

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  • Good luck tracking down those with no names!! We put a number behind where the stamp goes incase this happens, and after hearing all of these horror stories, I'm glad we did!!
  • McRogolMcRogol member
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    No invisible ink pen for us...We just put a number on the back of the RSVP in the bottom corner.  Also, thinking the return address will help us out!

    Good luck on figuring it out!
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  • Where have you purchased the invisible pens?
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