Too big of a meal for time?

grizzly04 · May 2013

Is this meal to heavy for a two o'clock wedding. The reception will follow the ceremoney a few miles away, I think seven, have to double check.
Two meats (each guest gets for example two pieces of chicken and a slice of ham)
Three sides
Dinner roll

I'm just a little worried that people will come for the ceremony but not for the reception. I don't want to be sitting on all the food.

Is it okay if we don't register for gifts, we have everything we "need" and the wedding is a good hour drive away for everyone.

Would it be tacky having a candy, cookie, and caramel/candy apple buffet? We are having a good amount of people showing up with kids and our wedding is the beginning of October, and I figured what ever candy we don't use I can take it to work for my preschool students.

WalkersFurMama · May 2013

That meal does sound a *little* heavy for a 2:30/3:00 time. Can you push it back a little so they'd be eating closer to 5:00/6:00?

You don't have to register for gifts, but be prepared for people who insisit on giving a gift and not cash to just buy you whatever they think is pretty or nice. It might be worth it to register for a few upgrade items or pretty decorative frames/vases.

Personally, I like candy buffets at weddings and have never heard a person next to me standing there going, "I can't believe she did this, how tacky!" Usually, they're too busy stuffing their face or filling a bag.

lyndausvi · May 2013

I think it depends on your crowd.

We always have full meals regardless of the time of day. It would be fine for us. While not the daily norm, it's not completely unheard of that we have lunches or early dinners sometimes. Growing up we always had big Sunday or holiday dinners starting late afternoon.

grizzly04 · May 2013

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[QUOTE]That meal does sound a *little* heavy for a 2:30/3:00 time. Can you push it back a little so they'd be eating closer to 5:00/6:00? You don't have to register for gifts, but be prepared for people who insisit on giving a gift and not cash to just buy you whatever they think is pretty or nice. It might be worth it to register for a few upgrade items or pretty decorative frames/vases. Personally, I like candy buffets at weddings and have never heard a person next to me standing there going, "I can't believe she did this, how tacky!" Usually, they're too busy stuffing their face or filling a bag.

Posted by WalkersFurMama[/QUOTE]

We where thinking about pushing the time, but we are having the reception out in the middle of know where and I would feel bad for people having to drive in the dark, if they want to that fine, and we are not night owls.

I put reception and dance on the invites; so I hope people come with an empty stomach.

STARMOON44 · May 2013

Why do you think people will skip the reception? People tend to show up for the free food. Nothing wrong with a candy buffet, but I'd save thinking about it until right before the wedding. It's such an easy cut if you need more room in the budget it would be a shame to have already sunk money into it.

QueerFemme · May 2013

I think you can't go wrong with hosting a full meal. People will eat it.

I love the cookie, candy and apple buffet. Even though, the caramel apples can be pretty messy.

grizzly04 · May 2013

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[QUOTE]I see nothing wrong with having a big meal at that time. I have eaten late lunches or early dinners. I see nothing wrong with candy. For the registery, you may want to have a small one with a few upgrades or things such as towels. This is good for guests that like to give a gift rather then a gift card or check.
Posted by snippet17[/QUOTE]

I understand what you are saying, but I just feel guilty about it. We are remodeling our house and I just feel that if we can afford to remodel our home we can afford to buy the things we want.

My fiance wants to register at a home improvement store, but I was thinking about Target or Walmart. My cousin has a bridal shower coming up and one washcloth is ten bucks. I'm just happy if people show up and celebrate with us.

There are a few things that I would like, but I feel rather rude registering for them.

QueerFemme · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time? : I understand what you are saying, but I just feel guilty about it. We are remodeling our house and I just feel that if we can afford to remodel our home we can afford to buy the things we want. My fiance wants to register at a home improvement store, but I was thinking about Target or Walmart. My cousin has a bridal shower coming up and one washcloth is ten bucks. I'm just happy if people show up and celebrate with us. There are a few things that I would like, but I feel rather rude registering for them.
Posted by grizzly04[/QUOTE]

honestly grizzly... you seem like a nice person, but you gotta get over this victim/guilt crap. if someone wants to buy you a gift, they will, whether you are registered or not. Register, or don't register. But, stop feeling bad or worrying about every move you make in this wedding planning adventure.

lyndausvi · May 2013

In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time? : honestly grizzly... you seem like a nice person, but you gotta get over this victim/guilt crap. if someone wants to buy you a gift, they will, whether you are registered or not. Register, or don't register. But, stop feeling bad or worrying about every move you make in this wedding planning adventure.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

I was going to post something similar. I feel like you are making wedding planning way too stressful than it needs to be. You seem to be so concerned about making people happy you can't seem to make ANY decisions without posting on here.

Relax a little okay?

QueerFemme · May 2013

In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time? : I was going to post something similar. I feel like you are making wedding planning way too stressful than it needs to be. You seem to be so concerned about making people happy you can't seem to make ANY decisions without posting on here. Relax a little okay?
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

right... that's what I was thinking. I mean, I'm jazzed when people run their wedding plans and ideas past everyone here. I love weddings. It's just that all of your questions end up with "but, she will be mad" or "but I feel guilty" or "I don't know how to stand up to them", etc.

Planning can be stressful, but there shouldn't be guilt and mini-meltdowns about it.

lyndausvi · May 2013

In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time? : right... that's what I was thinking. I mean, I'm jazzed when people run their wedding plans and ideas past everyone here. I love weddings. It's just that all of your questions end up with "but, she will be mad" or "but I feel guilty" or "I don't know how to stand up to them", etc. Planning can be stressful, but there shouldn't be guilt and mini-meltdowns about it.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

yep.

Grizz - I think it's safe to say most of us like you. I know I would like you to relax a little and not worry so much.

Jen4948 · May 2013

It doesn't sound like too big a meal to me. The candy buffet sounds okay too. One of my cousins did this at his wedding.

As far as registering goes, if you don't want to, then don't. As long as you graciously thank the givers of all gifts you receive (and even if you don't register you may very well receive them), you can keep or dispose of them however you see fit.

And yes, stop feeling guilty. You have yet to do anything (that you have posted about here, anyway) that violates the rules and calls for guilt.

Simply Fated · May 2013

I can eat anytime anywhere, so I'm biased lol. You don't have to register. A small register at maybe the home improvement store might help, but you don't need to if you don't want to.

LDubHawksFan · May 2013

In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too big of a meal for time? : I understand what you are saying, but I just feel guilty about it. We are remodeling our house and I just feel that if we can afford to remodel our home we can afford to buy the things we want. My fiance wants to register at a home improvement store, but I was thinking about Target or Walmart. My cousin has a bridal shower coming up and one washcloth is ten bucks. I'm just happy if people show up and celebrate with us. There are a few things that I would like, but I feel rather rude registering for them.
Posted by grizzly04[/QUOTE]

Don't feel guilty about it. People will want to get you something. We had a house too, and didn't need much, but I'll tell you, getting new towels for the first time since college, nice! There are lots of small upgrades that you could probably find at Target (towels, bed sheets, warped cookie sheets, replacing the combined dishes with a matching set). Also, if you guys really are doing a lot of repairs/housework, I think your FI has a great idea. I don't know if Menards (local) has a registry, but I've heard that Home Depot and Lowes both do. You guys could put a few things you need that are reasonably priced (power drill, etc) and then people may get you gift cards that you could use on supplies.
The meal sounds a little heavy for me, but better to have more food then less. Push it back a little if you can. We had a candy bar and it went over really well.

allispain · May 2013

I don't think it's a bad idea to have such a big meal at that time of day, but it may be a good idea to make one or two of the sides a bit lighter, so that people don't feel weighed down for the dancing if they did eat lunch before coming and then proceeded to eat more at the reception.

I felt guilty myself putting what I felt were expensive items on my registry (especially a stand mixer - which I always wanted but couldn't afford to buy myself). However, I did so at my mom's suggestion. What ended up happening is that one of my aunts and both of her adult children and their spouses all went in on that one gift together. They all know my love of baking, so they were thrilled to get me something they knew I would use often, and I was thrilled that no one person spent an outrageous amount buying it for me. Everyone wins (especially my FI, who gets to eat all my homemade cookies...). If they couldn't afford it or simply didn't want to spend that much, they wouldn't have bought it for me. Instead, they were able to see precisely which one I felt would work best for me, so they weren't left guessing at the store as to what I would like.

winelover123 · May 2013

I'll eat of all that at any time of the day :-) Since you put reception and dancing to follow, I'd just have a light, early lunch at home so I'd have room for all of the rood. In my world, for special occasions dinner can be at 2 PM and at 8 PM and weddings fall into that category.

Go register for new towels if you want them! It's not bad to register.

AJuliaNJ · May 2013

I'd prefer too much food to too little food. Did you send out your invitations? If not, I'd make it clear on them that a meal will be served so they come hungry ("dinner to follow") and/or let as many people as possible know via word-of-mouth. Since the guests are an hour away, they will likely leave around 12:30. If they know they'll have a meal around 3, they can plan to have a late breakfast. I feel like most people I know eat a later breakfast on the weekends anyway.

The candy bar sounds like a good idea.

MsYeck · May 2013

If I knew in advance that the meal wasn't that time I would love it. Late lunch, early dinner means I don't have to worry about getting any meals for myself that day. I frequently eat at 2:30pm to cut calorie consumption

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