My fiance and I (mostly me) have been stressing out over what we want for our wedding day. We are leaning towards an intimate cermony (my parents and siblings, his parents and the person who will be marrying us) so 9 people including myself and my fiance. We want to have the ceremony in the morning and then have a large cookout reception in the afternoon/evening. Is this rude?? I know having a ceremony with 50 of your "closest friends and family" and then 150 invited to the reception is rude. I'm concerned that our friends and extended family will be offended. I also do not want people to think that we are just fishing for gifts. Is it appropriate to request no gifts in the invitation? I saw somewhere that a couple included "Your presence is the only kind of present we need" which seemed more acceptable. Any thoughts/ideas?? .