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Just Engaged and Proposals

Engaged & Excited!

Just wanted to say hello! I'm new to the site and wanted to share my story... 

I got to know my fiance, Jesse, last summer when we both volunteered at a girl's conservation camp. He had started working at the school district I worked at months before, but I only saw him a few times. After the camp, we basically hung out everyday after that. He loves to travel, and I was excited to start traveling as I finally got my B.S. degree. At the end of November we planned a trip to Paris/London which we went on April 17 - May 2. 

Well, it was the last day of our trip and we were in Paris. We had two things left to do for that day. Go shopping (we had saved most of our spending money for this day) and visit the Eiffel Tower. It so happened that it was Labor Day in Paris so 90% of all the stores were closed (including H&M and Sephora - just to show you how really closed everything was). After walking all over to find souvenirs, we headed over to the Eiffel Tower. It was about 9pm when we arrived. We went up to the very top and saw the city all lit up.

A group of people stopped next to us having a conversation. One of them asked, "Are we supposed to kiss on top of the Eiffel Tower?" they did and then said "It's so cliche..."  Jesse turned to them and said "You really want to know what's cliche'? Asking your girlfriend to marry you atop the Eiffel Tower" Jesse turned to me, got down on one knee, and asked "Will you marry me Ashley Hansen?" Of course I said "Yes!"

We want to do our wedding next Sept 2014. We are big fans of the outdoors and want to rent out a huge retreat/camp kind of venue and do a small (immediate family only) ceremony early, followed by a bigger fun reception - BBQ, lawn games, dancing... just fun. 

I'm just so darn excited! I love this man! :)

Re: Engaged & Excited!

  • Hello and welcome! Very cute proposal story and pic! :)

    So, just want to give you a heads-up, I think that you will find that a lot of folks here are against a mismatched ceremoy and reception guest list. The thinking is that those who are not invited to the ceremony will feel like they're not important enough to actually witness the event they are celebrating with you. Are you thinking of a small ceremony and celebration with your immediate families, then a general party later on to see all of your friends and family? That sounds like a good alternative.
  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    edited May 2013
    What you are planning sounds fine. Having an immediate family only ceremony followed by a larger reception is perfectly acceptable. It's only frowned upon when you say "small ceremony" and that ends up being like 40 people. THEN it's rude. Congrats and happy planning!
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Congratulations! Very exciting. :)

    But, like PP, I'd be careful with that plan.  You won't find a lot of support for that here.
    Have you lurked at all here? I did for a long time before we were engaged and it definitely let me now what was a faux pas before I made one. lol
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  • edited May 2013
    Thanks for the welcomes. I haven't really been on this site too much. Small ceremony - parents/siblings/wedding party. We weren't going to have extended family or friends attend. Our thoughts were we just wanted to invite people to the fun part to party and not have everyone sit through the ceremony. Didn't know it might be frowned upon. We could invite everyone to both since it would be at the same venue. It's my fiance's second marriage, so he wanted it small all around, but since it's my first wedding we are having a bigger wedding/reception and he likes the idea now. We still don't have anything set in stone, but that was our inital thoughts.
  • Gotcha. Your and your FI's approach makes sense to me - I just know that I personally would love to watch my loved ones/friends exchange vows and be at the ceremony as well as the reception. But you know your crowd better than I do, obviously.
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