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SydneyNewmanSydneyNewman
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I'm getting married in September! I've sent out my save the dates to our family and most of our friends! The only thing I'm having a hard time with is the group of girls I used to work with! I worked in a daycare with about 14 other girls. I made some great friendships and some of them I even consider my sisters! There are about 5 girls I definitely want to invite and another 5 that I just don't feel right about leaving out....even though I probably wouldn't invite them if I absolutely could only invite 5 girls from the daycare.

I'm not saying that our guests can't bring dates....and most of the girls I would invite have serious boyfriends/husbands.

This is where I need the help.....would it be completely tacky of me to address invites to two of the girls and disclude their significant others? I mean chances are they wouldn't bring their boyfriends/hubbies anyway....but I figure if I did it that way I could include more of the girls I feel close to and spend money on people that I know and care about.

Orrrr should I invite the 5 girls I'm close to and their significant others and disclude the other girls? Even though I would really hate to do that, I don't want it to look like a tacky mess!

Please help! This has been weighing on my mind and I'm nervous about it because I like to visit everyone and the kids when I go back home (I moved out of state), but if I didn't invite certain people I know I wouldn't be welcome around there anymore!

Any advice or suggestions are WELCOMEEEE!!!
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  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
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    edited May 2013
    You must ALWAYS invite significant others. Only truly SINGLE people can be invited without a +1. 

    ETA: Its not just "tacky", its RUDE.
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    [QUOTE]I'm getting married in September! I've sent out my save the dates to our family and most of our friends! The only thing I'm having a hard time with is the group of girls I used to work with! I worked in a daycare with about 14 other girls. I made some great friendships and some of them I even consider my sisters! There are about 5 girls I definitely want to invite and another 5 that I just don't feel right about leaving out....even though I probably wouldn't invite them if I absolutely could only invite 5 girls from the daycare. I'm not saying that our guests can't bring dates....and most of the girls I would invite have serious boyfriends/husbands. This is where I need the help.....would it be completely tacky of me to address invites to two of the girls and disclude their significant others? I mean chances are they wouldn't bring their boyfriends/hubbies anyway....but I figure if I did it that way I could include more of the girls I feel close to and spend money on people that I know and care about. Orrrr should I invite the 5 girls I'm close to and their significant others and disclude the other girls? Even though I would really hate to do that, I don't want it to look like a tacky mess! Please help! This has been weighing on my mind and I'm nervous about it because I like to visit everyone and the kids when I go back home (I moved out of state), but if I didn't invite certain people I know I wouldn't be welcome around there anymore! Any advice or suggestions are WELCOMEEEE!!!
    Posted by SydneyNewman[/QUOTE]
    It's not tacky, it's rude.  Extremely rude.  You must invite both halves of the couple or neither.  Also, disclude is not a word. 



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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    No. Its rude. Spouses should always be invited. Ps. The word you are looking for is "exclude" not "disclude".

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  • efmcc67efmcc67 member
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    Do these other people from work really expect to be invited? If I were you, I'd invite the five girls you're close to and their significant others, but not the other five. People don't expect you to invite everyone you work with. However, if you sent save-the-dates to them, then you must invite them.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    You need to invite anyone who considers themselves in a relationship. It is not up to you to judge the seriousness. Anything else is horribly rude.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Why is this ever even a question? How would you feel if someone invited your fiance and not you? 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • misshart00misshart00 member
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    How many of these people did you send save the dates to? If you sent them to all ten, you need to find a way to invite all of them with their spouses. If you didn't send STDs to all of them, then I think you should invite the 5 you're closest to and their spouses/SOs.
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  • SydneyNewmanSydneyNewman
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    Ok. Thanks.
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