Happy 80 days

Nolagirl12 · May 2013

80 days and counting. So exciting Fi I paid our final payment on honeymoon and we booked our hotel for wedding night. Next week we start taking dance lessons for our first dance.FI doesn't know how to dance.invitations going out soon. Cant wait but now im starting to get nervous. Not for marrying the man i love but making sure everything goes as planned. Anyone else getting nervous? Is it normal to be nervous. Love to hear how everyones plans are going.

jenlynn1204 · May 2013

Wahoo to 80 days!! Have fun taking dance lessons. I am starting to figure out what to do for the candy buffet. And I keep going back and forth if I want to do a photo booth or not. I am getting nervous as well! I am sure everything will go well

dem068 · May 2013

yay 80 days! time is going to FLY now! I am leaving for my bachelorette party tomorrow morning (in Aruba!) So excited!

Price4life · May 2013

Yes!!! I am on coffee and red bulls everyday due to me trying to keep up with the wedding plans! It's the first day of May and now the wedding really sets in because this is the month so much stuff needs to be finalize by June 1st!!! I'm trying not to panic and go "bridezilla" so I am constantly on these boards checking and chatting with everyones planning. It's like a stress reliever. hahaha...

crysspears · May 2013

Happy 80 days to you! today marks 65 for me!

Really starting to freak the heck out!! We have to cut down our guestlist (of course after we address all the invites----________---- )! and still get the invites out ASAP!

Happy planning!1

pam8787 · May 2013

I think I am down to 60 something days. I am panicking as well. I am trying to get everything done but it seems like so much to still do.

Wheels987 · May 2013

In Response to Re: Happy 80 days:
[QUOTE]Happy 80 days to you! today marks 65 for me! Really starting to freak the heck out!! We have to cut down our guestlist (of course after we address all the invites----________---- )! and still get the invites out ASAP! Happy planning!1
Posted by crysspears[/QUOTE]

Oh my goodness!! How many people do you need to cut? Obviously you know better than I do, but that sounds like the most stressful thing ever.

Belle0720 · May 2013

80 days for me too! I can't believe it!!

We took a dance lesson last friday and it was really fun!

My sister sent out Bridal Shower invitations yesterday, BM dresses come in today, first dress fitting is next monday and then my boudoir shoot is next Friday!

I definitely have butterflies, I'm nervous but sooo excited for everything!

crysspears · May 2013

@wheels , Ideally, I wanted 120 people to show.. Our list was at 145 adults and about 25 children (under 21, most are like 1-10 though). Im going to try and cut the children down to 10-12, and adults to about 130.

It just sucks because I know for a fact 8-15 arent going to make it (out of state relatives of FI, some of FIs sisters family in law) ,but I still have to count on them showing up. Im so releived I didnt send everyone a save the date!!

I also know that the BP all gets a plus 1, but i know alot of them arent going to.. but we think were going to ask out siblings to not bring a guest. It also helps half our BP are dating/married.

Pretty sure im also going to cut out 2nd cousins who I know would be able to find a babysitter, and peoples children who are local.

And I also just counted 12-15 I can take out.. I feel kinda bad because I think they'd be excited to go /=

Also, is it rude to not invite someone whose address you already asked for? My mom didnt want to much address getting so I had to creep and ask a good amount of people..

thekorsans · May 2013

In Response to Re: Happy 80 days:
[QUOTE]@wheels , Ideally, I wanted 120 people to show.. Our list was at 145 adults and about 25 children (under 21, most are like 1-10 though). Im going to try and cut the children down to 10-12, and adults to about 130. It just sucks because I know for a fact 8-15 arent going to make it (out of state relatives of FI, some of FIs sisters family in law) ,but I still have to count on them showing up. Im so releived I didnt send everyone a save the date!! I also know that the BP all gets a plus 1, but i know alot of them arent going to.. but we think were going to ask out siblings to not bring a guest. It also helps half our BP are dating/married. Pretty sure im also going to cut out 2nd cousins who I know would be able to find a babysitter, and peoples children who are local. And I also just counted 12-15 I can take out.. I feel kinda bad because I think they'd be excited to go /= Also, is it rude to not invite someone whose address you already asked for? My mom didnt want to much address getting so I had to creep and ask a good amount of people..
Posted by crysspears[/QUOTE]

hmm the children issue is difficult. fiance and i decided no kids, except our flower girls and ring bearer. i couldn't say yes to one cousin and no to the other. imagine the cousin i said no kids to shows up and sees everyone elses kids. it's not fair! but do what you think is best, it's your day! good luck!!!

drg424 · May 2013

Glad I am not alone in the list-cutting saga!

I originally planned for 125 total - all adults, no kids. But FI has family coming from Hawaii for the wedding and that includes a group of kids (plus some local cousins). I want to be gracious and courteous to his family so privately I've voiced my dilemna and asked that he ensure no children outside his family make it onto the list. And, now I've agreed to let me MOH and BM bring their two sons.

Aside from that, I am still struggling with how to ask people who are not married or in a serious relationship not to bring a plus one. It feels weird to tell some people they can and others they can't, so I've just avoided it knowing it will put a financial strain and some awkardness on my family - but I've already told FI we are going to be the ones who need to pick up the extra costs of the extra guests. He's fine with it, but I'd rather just not have strangers at my wedding altogether.

I've also had several people invite themselves - ugh. And a few who I foolishly asked for addresses way early in the game, before we even had a guest list. These are people who I can actually live without inviting and need to do some contemplating about.

Is it rude to not invite people you've asked for addresses for? And how do you handle the assumed plus-ones from your single friends?

I think at the end of the day, this is going to just be an expensive lesson learned for me

My only hope is that some people don't show!

thekorsans · May 2013

asking for addresses is almost the same as sending a save the date, they'll definitely expect it but you need to do what's best for you! planning a wedding myself, i know how hard it is to make cuts and the financial aspect is huge! if you've asked for an address and they don't receive an invite, they may awkwardly ask you but whatever, they'll get over it

as for plus one of single friends, i've decided to invite them without a guest option, but if they get a bf/gf by the time of the wedding that they wanna bring, we'll deal with it then. if they fit in to our numbers and seating plan, they can bring them. if not, it's a no!

Wheels987 · May 2013

In Response to Re: Happy 80 days:
[QUOTE]@wheels , Ideally, I wanted 120 people to show.. Our list was at 145 adults and about 25 children (under 21, most are like 1-10 though). Im going to try and cut the children down to 10-12, and adults to about 130. It just sucks because I know for a fact 8-15 arent going to make it (out of state relatives of FI, some of FIs sisters family in law) ,but I still have to count on them showing up. Im so releived I didnt send everyone a save the date!! I also know that the BP all gets a plus 1, but i know alot of them arent going to.. but we think were going to ask out siblings to not bring a guest. It also helps half our BP are dating/married. Pretty sure im also going to cut out 2nd cousins who I know would be able to find a babysitter, and peoples children who are local. And I also just counted 12-15 I can take out.. I feel kinda bad because I think they'd be excited to go /= Also, is it rude to not invite someone whose address you already asked for? My mom didnt want to much address getting so I had to creep and ask a good amount of people..
Posted by crysspears[/QUOTE]

I think once you ask for an address, they assume they're getting an invite.

I know people say assume everyone will show up, but as long as you cannnnnn afford/fit the extra people, I'd invite all 145 and then mentally not count those that you know aren't coming. Our whole list is 293 people, but 80% of those people are from out of state and a huge portion won't come. FMIL calls them "courtesy invites". If everyone showed up in some weird universe, we could host them, though I wouldn't love the idea of that many people.

For the kids thing--make sure you apply the same rules across the board. People will find out if you allow some but not others.

crysspears · May 2013

Man this really is a terrrible saga to be in! Fis mom invited children on her list, which fine the oldest is 3 and they're from oot.. we are going to let the oot from our friends/family bring them i think its only fair since they're traveling... My whole family on the otherhand is in san Diego where were getting married so I just can't decide.. ifi don't invite them I will get some serious backlash from them and they'll just talk crap about everything. This would be easier if my parents gave me some guidelines! My dad doesn't care what I do and my mom says "invite who you want its your day" but that just makes me feel awkward and mean.. I guess I have to put my big girl panties on and start makin the decisions

keyaira04 · May 2013

Happy 80! I'm at 65 today

drg424 · May 2013

In Response to Re:Happy 80 days:
[QUOTE]Man this really is a terrrible saga to be in! Fis mom invited children on her list, which fine the oldest is 3 and they're from oot.. we are going to let the oot from our friends/family bring them i think its only fair since they're traveling... My whole family on the otherhand is in san Diego where were getting married so I just can't decide.. ifi don't invite them I will get some serious backlash from them and they'll just talk crap about everything. This would be easier if my parents gave me some guidelines! My dad doesn't care what I do and my mom says "invite who you want its your day" but that just makes me feel awkward and mean.. I guess I have to put my big girl panties on and start makin the decisions
Posted by crysspears[/QUOTE]

If it makes you feel better, the guest list and invitations have been the single most complicated, stressful part of wedding planning for me.

Everything else feels like it's gone off without a hitch (I'm pretty laid back anyways), but this beast just gets hairier by the day. Our invites have still not even gone out yet - and won't, until I can figure out whether or not at this point I just pull the trigger on nearly 200 people and pray 50 or more don't come.

On the kid note - it's hard to swallow paying $43 a mini-head for each of those babies! I wish people were more sensative to that.

Good luck to you!

crysspears · May 2013

I definitely agree, this has been the worst part too! Everything else is fun and easy relatively... Luckily, a kids plate at our venue is only 10.. I justdont think I want 24 munchkins running around. 10, is okay but 24 and we would have to go to war at the candy bar

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