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Lately, I've been asking myself "if I were a bridesmaid, what would I want as a gift?" My moh said a gift card LOL but I feel like it should be something they can keep forever.  In the idea range of a wine glass or robe... something personalized.  But is that enough?  Sure doesn't seem like it sometimes!  I am trying to think of something special, but not TOO expensive as I need 5!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Think of each person individually.    That may help!  The gifts don't need to be the same.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    It's nice you're concerned, but really, some people don't WANT something to keep forever. Really, what is soneone going to do with a single wine glass? And if someone can't remember your fun wedding or your awesome friendship without a visual aid or keepsake, then it's probably time to stop thinking in terms of "stuff" and start concentrating more on the quality of your relationship. If she said she likes gift cards best, then listen to her. I truly don't mean this in a nasty tone, but what makes you think that you know better than her when it comes to what she'd like? It's better to get her a gift card she'll use, than a "traditional wedding gift" that she won't just for the sake of it bring a cuter gift or something.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_gifts-18?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:67e3f88b-ae60-4770-9403-22f36a27e76ePost:ccc0bef1-f0f0-406e-9a1b-dc059cfd0526">Re:GIFTS</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's nice you're concerned, but really, some people don't WANT something to keep forever.
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    <div>I agree with this. We bought individualized gifts for each of our attendants, as if we were shopping for their birthday, so we ended up buying books, Starbucks gift cards, earrings, etc.</div>
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  • pinkdocmartenspinkdocmartens
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    We got the guys watches. If you go somewhere like Sears they almost always have name brand watches on sale. For the girls I got a mix of watches, jewelry, and wallets
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    I bought each girl a tote bag and filled it with different things.  I did get the same things for each girl: Bridesmaid the movie, a shawl, irish angel, pendant, and picture frame.  The pendant for each girl was different and to their tastes, I picked them out on etsy and got sterling silver chains.  These were not for the wedding, though my sister did wear hers at the wedding.  And the picture frame, I promised a picture from the wedding to them. 
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    I struggled quite a bit with my bridesmaids' gifts.  Each of them is wildly different in body-shape and personality  (for example, one is 6 foot 2, and one is 5'2.).  Almost everything I could think of was just not going to work for all of them.  I couldn't even go the jewelry route, because one girl just doesn't wear any, or have peirced ears.  Ack!

    I'd suggest that you listen to your MOH about the giftcards.  OR, maybe you could schedule a full-blown spa day pampering for her on your dime.  If I was a MOH, I'd love the crud out of my bride for that.
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    I got them their jewelry for the day. Something to match each of their personalities but went with their dress. I also got them each a nice bag w/pockets for them to put their stuff they'll need for the wedding into & then their clothes into after putting their dresses on (we're getting dressed at the church). In the bags I'm also putting things in there to make their day comfortable such as band-aids, bottled water, nail file, advil, breath mints, etc. Basically an emergency comfort kit for each. We're doing the same for the groomsmen who are all coming to our house to get dressed w/the groom after they all go out for breakfast.
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    I would caution against buying them something they are supposed to wear in the wedding.  A lot of people don't feel that to be much of a gift, or very personal.  My sister did that to me, and it's not even slightly my style (looked great with her wedding though) so it sits in my closet collecting dust.
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  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    Shop for them like it's their birthday.

    If you get them something to wear for the wedding, then it's selfish because you weren't really thinking about them, you were at least partially thinking about what makes you look good (or your pictures better, or them more helpful, ect...).

    If you get them all the same thing, unless they genuinely like the same thing, then, again, you didn't think at all about their tastes and differences. You only saw a simple answer to an obligation.

    If either of these two are untrue, good for you. But it's still going to come across that way.

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  • C0602tC0602t member
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    I LOVE the idea of shopping like it's their birthday... Thank you!
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  • taraowens1983taraowens1983
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    Ok definitely DO NOT give a gift card...you might as well throw a $20 bill their way and call it a night.

    My best friend gave away personalized travel toiletry bags for the wedding party and I use it every time I go away. I think this was a great gift because I actually use it, unlike most other wedding party gifts I have received in the past. Everytime I use the bag it reminds me of their wedding :)

    This is not the company or bag they used but maybe this will point you in the right direction!

    http://www.exclusivelyweddings.com/Weddings/118-1131?refid=pmdigital&utm_source=Froogle&utm_medium=CSE&utm_campaign=NonBrand&cm_mmc=PMD-_-CSE-_-Travel_and_Gym_Accessories-_-Froogle&gclid=COWe6MXMs7ICFUfd4AodSAsATA
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  • parteasepartease member
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    You can give them dresses with some jewellery's. I think they like it.
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  • Kris10bixlerKris10bixler
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    I'm getting my BMs clutches, jewelry, personalized hangers, and personalized bags. Pretty typical BM gifts I think.
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  • bvgymnastbvgymnast
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    I don't think getting GC is the same as giving cash. Cash has a tendency to get spent on necessities (like gas, groceries, etc) but a GC to a place they want something from or like to eat at is different. They have to use it for that purpose. I am having trouble also deciding on gifts. Getting something for the wedding does seem lame to me.
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