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Out of town Maid of Honor

TheSweetChefTheSweetChef member
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Ok Ladies, 

I have a girl  in mind for my Maid of Honor but the only problem is she goes to an out of state college.  So, what is the proper etiquette?? Do I pay for her plane ticket? When should I ask her and my other bridesmaids? What price is too expensive of a bridesmaid dress?  Our wedding isnt until Fall of 2014...

Thanks!!! 
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Re: Out of town Maid of Honor

  • girl4182girl4182 member
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    You are not required to pay for her plane ticket.
    Ask your maids 6-8 months before your wedding as relationships change.
    Ask each of your maids privately what they can afford and stay below the lowest price.

    Congrats!!!!
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  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    In Response to Re: Out of town Maid of Honor:
    [QUOTE]You are not required to pay for her plane ticket. Ask your maids 6-8 months before your wedding as relationships change. Ask each of your maids privately what they can afford and stay below the lowest price. Congrats!!!!
    Posted by girl4182[/QUOTE]

    Completely agree with all of this -people expect to pay their own way to come to a wedding - but I also wanted to add that given that she's a student and lives far enough away that she needs to fly to the wedding, she might not be able to afford to come, in which case it would be very nice of you, though certainly not required, to help her pay for a plane ticket and/or her dress, and help her find a place to stay.  As in, if what's important to you is her being there, IMO you should be prepared to do what it takes to get her there within the confines of her budget.
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  • TheSweetChefTheSweetChef member
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    Thank you very much!! :) I'm pretty much willing to do whatever it takes to get her in the wedding lol.. 
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  • swimmy1988swimmy1988 member
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    My MOH is also out of town, she paid for her own flights home. But she's making the most of it and staying extra days after the wedding is over to hang out with her family.
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    My MOH moved out of state after I'd asked her to be in the wedding. We did set the shower date her birthday weekend so she has dual reasons to come home and celebrate with family and my bachelorette parry will be Labor Day weekend so she has an extra day here too. She is paying for everything but I've tried to be super flexible.
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  • erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    since she is out of town I would actually ask your bridesmaids at the 9/10 month mark so they out of towners have time to budget. 

    as for your other questions PPs nailed it.  Personally though, even if your girls say it does not matter how much the dress is--I would stay under $200. 
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  • wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    My MOH is 10 hours away, and takes the train home when she can because her family is 20 miles from me.  Since she's not required to do anything besides buy the dress and show up to the wedding, having her that far away isn't a problem.  The worst thing about it is that I just don't get to see her very much anymore!
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