I've snooped around your board,but this is the first time I've posted. I have a very old friend of mine, let's call her A. A and I have known each other for ten years. She is very dear to me, however, I can only handle her in small doses. Our personalities (I'm a modest tomboy and she is a girly-girl) have a tendency to clash and if we talk to each other too much we end up fighting. I asked her to be a bridesmaid because I wanted to honor our friendship despite our many differences. Her response to my question was "Only if I'm chief bridesmaid"...that should've been a warning.
We have argued over everything. I sent the girls pictures of BM dresses (red and below the knee) and A sent back pictures of short black dresses and said "Black is sooo much classier". When I asked for her assistance in the seating charts, she gave me a lecture about how "guests don't want assigned seating, let us sit where ever we want" rather than advise me on who to sit with whom. Even when I explained to her that, for a plated dinner, the venue requires assigned seating with placecards, she was still no help. When I won't let her get her way, she threatens to bow out of the wedding. She's not engaged, but she wants to be and is presuring her BF to propose. Her boyfriend has recently told me that he doesn't like me and doesn't want her to be a bridesmaid. I suspect she may have put him up to saying that. It seems like she's hunting for an excuse to get out. All signs point to not having her be a bridesmaid anymore. But BUT, she is my oldest friend and we have had our differences, and regardless of her current behavior, I did ASK her. How do I do this gracefully? Or should I even bother trying to be graceful? Alternatively, Should I just suck it up and keep her as a bridesmaid even when she's threatening to bow out? What do you guys think? What would you do? This is why I want to ask my snarky brides, you guys are honest and blunt and I love it!