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Declining a Wedding Invitation-Gift?

radleybooradleyboo member
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Do you still send a gift?  We got an invitation for a wedding for a day on which we're already attending another wedding.  I went to the couple's registry online and sent them a gift, even though we cannot attend.  Do most people do this?  Just wondering if this is the norm, I always send something even if I cannot go.

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Re: Declining a Wedding Invitation-Gift?

  • vanityinkvanityink member
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    A bulk of people I know do, but a gift is never required.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't unless I'm super close with them. 
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  • nicg2013nicg2013 member
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    I'm getting married in a month, and some guests still sent a monetary gift when they declined our invitations...and I can say that I was truthfully shocked! It wasn't something that I was expecting or thought that people did, but I was so grateful for the sentiment. I really don't think it's necessary at all, but if you do choose to it's more than appreciated!
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    It depends on who they are.  A close friend/family that I would normally attend, but am missing the wedding because of schedule conflict?  Yes, I send a gift.     

    My cousin's 30-year-old daughter who I have never met and it's OOT for me?  Nope.









    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • phira_22857389phira_22857389
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    I had to back out of a wedding party because I couldn't afford to travel to the wedding (long story). I still bought a nice gift for my friends, especially since a super nice gift was only a fraction of the cost of the flight, hotel, and rental car.

    Since it's not a requirement, I'd go with your gut. Do you feel like you'd be buying a gift purely out of obligation? Or because you were planning on getting a gift anyway and just can't make the wedding itself?
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