DH calls his mom and reiterates what he said the other day about just wanting me to be happy and that all of her work is appreciated, then tells her that she needs to talk to him like an adult if she has an issue with him – not to go whining to his sisters about it. At this point MIL tells him that pirate is not an appropriate theme for a baby shower (apparently “tooth fairy” is???) and more or less says that she won’t make the cake because she doesn’t want to. He told her that she needs to be up front about that then; because this is the first time she has said that in the last 2+ years. He offers (at my suggestion) a compromise – since I don’t like cake, how about using a specific stand that she has, and making or buying 3 different flavors of cheesecake. He tells her several times that he thinks this would be better than a doll cake. (He knows that I will be posting pictures on here post shower for everyone to laugh at…) MIL is still stuck on the doll cake. At this point, I’m waving for him to give me the phone, so he tells her he is going to put me on and is mouthing “be nice.”
I tell MIL the same thing DH has been saying, while I realize that this is her party to host and she can do whatever she wants, I would appreciate if she was up front with me. I know that she doesn’t want to do the pirate cake, but rather than going through the effort of a “trial run” that she needs to be honest and just tell me that she has no intention of making what I asked for. I said that this was fine, but I needed her to tell me so (she never did, she was hemming and hawing about the “trial run”…) I asked her to please not go to the trouble of making a fairy cake either (since I don’t even like cake) and offered to go out an buy enough cheesecakes to feed the guests. I said that I would rather buy a dessert that I like than her to have to go to any more trouble to make a cake that I wasn’t even going to eat. I got a “maybe” from her at this point. I thanked her for listening and gave DH the phone back. (she then complained to him about me being “high strung” and he told her that once again, I was stressed out and I didn’t need any added drama from them about this shower.)
When DH hung up he told me that he was going to figure out a way to get me a pirate cake for the shower – and he didn’t care how much it pissed off his mom. I’m curious to see what happens at this point. All I can say is that if she makes a fairy doll cake, there will be pics the following Monday, and I will be asking the waiter for a dessert menu.