Should I have a service or a full mass?

2014NYbride · May 2013

Should I have a full mass or just a service? I am a practicing Catholic so the full mass isn't a big deal but for those of my guests that aren't Catholic - will they become distracted and lose interest?

Calypso1977 · May 2013

if you are both catholic you should have Mass. even if only one of you is Catholic, the Catholic party should have a discussion with the non-catholic abotu the importance of the Mass and gauge the non-catholics comfort level. many non-catholics are more than willing to have Mass when they know its important to their spouse to be.

Ambybambi1125 · May 2013

Are both you and your FI Catholic? We are and although most of my side is not, I couldn't imagine not partaking in the Eucharist on our wedding day.

Riss91 · May 2013

If you and your FI are Catholic, you should have communion. Why not receive the most grace possible on your wedding day? Your non-Catholic guests will be fine - most people have been to weddings of different faiths these days and can handle a few extra minutes.

professorscience · May 2013

I agree with PP. If you are both Catholic, it is a wonderful sacrament to share. Like Kristan, many of our guests commented on how beautiful the whole mass was.

bibliophile2010 · May 2013

If you are both Catholic, I would definitely have the Mass. I really feel the ceremony should reflect you guys, your faith and your coming together, and if that means Mass, that's what you have to do. Maybe 1/3 of our guests were Catholic, but we still had Mass and never considered otherwise.

If your FI is not Catholic, I would probably not have Mass, because I feel that him not receiving highlights your disunity, which is not a great way to start a marriage. I know some people, though, feel really strongly about receiving the Eucharist that day and their fiances don't mind. Then, the decision really is between the couple.

2014NYbride · May 2013

Yes, he was raised Catholic (though he doesn't go to Church any longer). I think we'll go forward and plan for a full mass, appreciate all your feedback!

Aray82 · June 2013

I am planning to have a full Mass. My FI is Catholic but a lot of our friends aren't and have little to no familiarity with the Mass ceremony. In fact, I've already been getting some eye rolls and just kidding/not really comments about how loooong the Cstholic Mass is and how they would just skip the ceremony if we did a Catholic Mass. At first I was also conceded about guests getting distracted etc, but ultimately decided on a full Mass because a) As TXKristan said, it is your wedding, b) I've been to a few weddings with no formal religious affiliations that were longer than a Catholic wedding Mass and remained attentive and respectful through them all because that's what you do when you're a grown-up asked to share an important day in your friend's life and c) Being united to my future husband in God's love is a big deal--it merits a full Mass!

Aray82 · June 2013

Ugh, that should be concerned, not conceded--that's what happens when you're reading knot forums on an iPhone!

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