uuuggghhh
There has been SO much going on...
One of my FH's friends, who is a bridesmaid, is insane. She has cause SO many problems. She felt "left out" at my shower, so cried and told everyone at her table that she was "just a guest there". She is older (42) and has caused more problems than the rest of my party combined.
Here's a little background knowledge for you all: I almost broke up with my fiance the first month we began dating because of how weird this woman was with Joel...like creepy "smack my a**" and craving attention from him. BUT, I stuck it out and even remained friends with this woman. She is very insulting...again, toughed it out for my fiance.
At the shower, my ladies wrote a little something about themselves and shared how we met and special memories. The ONLY mention of me in this particular individual's write up was that she was" so happy Joel met me because I understand their weird relationship"....the rest was all about Joel....at my bridal shower....
this may seem all petty....but this is 5 years of dealing with someone who clearly has a severe jealousy problem....everyone that knew her warned me of her and told me to stay away. Her husband is our best man...so staying away from them hasn't really been an option.
RECENTLY, my mother was at her salon getting her hair done (oh yeah, she's all of our hairdresser too) and she decided to talk badly about me the whole time. She told me mother that since the engagement ring, I've changed....I don't care about her two girls anymore (the jr. bridesmaids in the wedding....that I see and take out all the time...), that I'm pretty much a miserable bit**......through the whole appointment. My mother left there CRYING because of it....she had asked her to stop but she kept going. It was so bad that when my mother got home, my sister saw her and called Joel to inform him what had happened....
(this happened before the shower......I'm so upset that I only found out this past Sunday)
There's more to the story, but to make it short, before I found out about what she did to my mother, she started being super nice to me and eventually asked me to go on a walk with her. I knew something was up because she was like over-the-top nice. She decided to rip everyone in my wedding apart....my sister, my mother, and all of the bridesmaids...and played victim telling me everything that they did to her and how left out they made her and her daughters feel. I actually felt a bit bad for her.....I went to my mother's house and said I felt bad...and that's when my mother began crying telling me what she did to her. My sister then showed me e-mails and texts with the bridal party that showed everyone accommodating and being nice to this particular individual.
EVERYTHING this woman does is evil and is just deceitful and full of lies. I've had people come up to me and ask me why Joel's ex-girlfriend is in the wedding....how sick is that???
I've been so sick to my stomach about all of this....so has my fiance (Joel). We decided that instead of risk anymore of this, especially on the wedding day, we would ask her to step down from the wedding party (WHICH by the way she told me she almost did a bunch of times because of all the drama that everyone was creating...ugh). Joel went there last night and she pretty much kicked him out of their house.
She responded by saying "fine, we won't be in the wedding", and Joel informed her that clearly things just keep getting worse, not better, and she's shown that her feelings toward me and my family aren't nice....and that's it's probably better if she's not a part of my bridesmaids (you know, the one's who are supposed to support the bride...). He told them that we'd still love for the best man to still be in the wedding and the jr. bridesmaids, but we understand if that's not possible....
I'm absolutely devastated for Joel and what he had to do. But what this woman did, in my eyes, is unforgivable. To make my mother cry in front of other clients and staff is just sickening....
I know this is a long post and probably confusing....but I had to vent. This has been the week from heck and it's only Wednesday.....and we're 59 days away from the wedding........
Thanks for reading
