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Awesome relationship...why do I want marriage so bad?

Hello everyone, I'm 40, divorced, mom of 2, and independently fabulous. I'm in a 2yr. relationship with an awesome guy who is also divorced with an adult son. We have a great time together even when we are doing yard work. We take care of and care for each other. He has said he wants to be married and so do I - because religiously it's the right thing to do. He has given his intentions to my Mom and Dad when they visited (so sweet). They live in another country. He wants to wait for his Mom to visit to give our intentions to her. She lives accros the country and is caring for his ailing Dad and his Grandmother. I'm trying to understand and be patient because we want to do things properly, but we are bouncing between homes at this point. On the other hand, why on earth do I care about marriage the institution (pun intended, lol)? I wouldn't trade him for the world. He is the man for me. Advice?

Re: Awesome relationship...why do I want marriage so bad?

  • To me, it just sounds like you're really excited.  I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

    Just try to keep that excitement in check.  Remember that it's not a race, and you've already started your lives together.  Be patient, and enjoy your relationship as it is now.

    Oh, and welcome.  :)
  • I think you sound like you're both in good place now, interpersonally as well as intrapersonally.  Congratulations.  As PP said,coast along and enjoy this time for what it is.  I think I hear a bit of an undercurrent of worry that if you *do* get married it will mess up and transform this great thing into a shell of it's former self.  I would say - if you have true  love with a true partnership and communication remains a priority all along, you're in it for the long haul. :)
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