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Trying to make sense of it all

JillAdamsIIIJillAdamsIII
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Just needed to vent.

Last Saturday, my cousin was killed in a traffic accident and my family is in mourning.
With that being said, planning my wedding seems miniscule to say the least. The emotional part of me wants to move the date up because of  the "life's too short" or "why wait?" feeling going on in my head. But the rational part of me says "Keep to your plans, and enjoy the process." Lucklily, my fiance understands how I feel and holding my hand through it. I thankful for having him. 

Trying to make sense of if all. 
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  • CrazyCatLady3CrazyCatLady3 member
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    I'm sorry for your loss.
    I think moving up your plans would just cause added stress at a time when you and your family don't need it.  Keep to your plans, and maybe even take a break from planning for a while.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    I'm very sorry for your loss. 
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  • JillAdamsIIIJillAdamsIII
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    In Response to Re: Trying to make sense of it all:
    [QUOTE]I'm sorry for your loss. I think moving up your plans would just cause added stress at a time when you and your family don't need it.  Keep to your plans, and maybe even take a break from planning for a while.
    Posted by CrazyCatLady3[/QUOTE]

    Thank you, it's just so hard right now. I'm leaving for Pensacola to be with my family and I just want to get through it. Planning the wedding a form of normalcy for me - it's almost like therapy. But I'm having a moment.
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  • JillAdamsIIIJillAdamsIII
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    In Response to Re: Trying to make sense of it all:
    [QUOTE]I'm very sorry for your loss. 
    Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

    Thank you
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  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Combo Breaker
    oh Jill that's terrible! I am so sorry for your loss. I agree, keep the date and maybe take some time to not "plan". keep your chin up girl!

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  • krispi921krispi921 member
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Having experienced a similar family tragedy in the past, I know how hard it can be. Focus on your family right now and spending time with them remembering your cousin. Eventually, your wedding plans will give your family something to look forward to and a happier time when they can be together.
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  • starchyld77starchyld77
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    I am so sorry for your loss Jill... My heart goes out to you and your family and hope that everyone finds solace. My advice is to go at your own pace and be true to yourself... 
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  • wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    Very sorry for your loss.  Any loss is hard, but the ones that are unexpected come with a different set of emotions.  You and your family are in my thoughts.

    Keep your wedding as is.  Definitely take a break from planning, if you're able to.  Except for things that must be done by x date, push them back a bit.  Take this time to grieve and work through the healing process with your family.  You all need each other right now. 

    It's hard to focus on weddings in the midst of bad times.  On the one hand, weddings are really happy things to think about, but then sometimes, you just feel bad about being happy because there's something else you're so sad about.  My family is going through this process too.  We lost my pepere right before Christmas, and I definitely needed some time off from the wedding.  But in time I was ready to keep going with it, which is what he would have wanted.  It's not easy, but with time you learn that it's ok to be happy while still mourning. 

    I wish you the best of luck, OP.  You're in my thoughts.
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  • LindzxxoLindzxxo member
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    In Response to Trying to make sense of it all:
    [QUOTE]Just needed to vent. Last Saturday, my cousin was killed in a traffic accident and my family is in mourning. With that being said, planning my wedding seems miniscule to say the least. The emotional part of me wants to move the date up because of  the "life's too short" or "why wait?" feeling going on in my head. But the rational part of me says "Keep to your plans, and enjoy the process." Lucklily, my fiance understands how I feel and holding my hand through it. I thankful for having him.  Trying to make sense of if all. 
    Posted by JillAdamsIII[/QUOTE]

    I'm sorry for your loss! I completely understand what you are going through. I've had to deal with a similar situation myself last year. And I will tell you keep your plans as they are! We actually stopped the planning process because it seemed to be in poor taste to be happy while surrounded by all of this mourning but looking back I think it would have been the bright spot that was so sorely needed. Hang in there though! It will get easier.
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  • JillAdamsIIIJillAdamsIII
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    Hello everyone, and once again, thank you for your positive thoughts & energy. My family and I are pressing through this difficult time. I've decided to take a break from planning. Not sure when I'll start back again. I'm thankful that my fiance is very supportive through it all. He is truly a Godsend. 
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    I'm so very sorry for your loss.  I think your decision to take a break is very wise and will give you and everyone in your family time to deal with your grief.  I'm very sorry.
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  • MissMollyMissMolly member
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.
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