I am in a huge bind with one of my bridesmaids. Keep in mind when I asked her back in November of 2012, she was nothing like she is now. For starters, she is going through a divorce (this is not the reason) and her soon to be ex and her are going at it big time. They cannot stand one another now. I haven't seen her since mid March and she lives about 10 minutes away from me. We use to see each other multiple times a week. Her husband and my fiance are good friends as well. While not seeing her sucks, this isn't a reason to kick her out I know. I understand people fall out of touch. However, when I did see her back in March, she was talking about how much she parties now, how she is seeing a bunch of different guys, and is just completely different now. She has children and is acting this way... All she wants to talk about is partying and how drunk she got, who she went home with, etc. This is not the person who I asked to be my bridesmaid. Then my fiance tells me a couple days ago that she got caught shoplifting. I asked how he found out, and he said that her ex husband told him. I immediately thought ok don't believe this, he may just be bitter and making things up. However, I looked in our local newspaper and sure enough I saw that sentencing in there. Plus she has been writing cold checks as well. I just don't feel right about having someone like that in my wedding party. But I have no clue what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I feel like there is no other way. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!