To Solder or Not to Solder

KBhefter2015 · May 2013

I was wondering if its a good idea to get the rings solder together, or if anyone regrets doing it?
I need answers!
Please Help!

radleyboo · May 2013

In Response to Re: To Solder or Not to Solder:
[QUOTE]My FI told me i have to get it done. But i like the option of wearing one or the other. do yours rub together? i read somewhere overtime the metals will wear if i dont get it done.
Posted by KBhefter2015[/QUOTE]

Really? What other decisions does your FI make for you? Maybe it was just the way this is worded, but it makes me squeamy.

I will not be getting mine soldered for the same reasons stated above. I love both my band and my engagement ring together and separately, and love having the option to wear one, the other, or both. I've never heard about damage to the rings because they weren't soldered. Good luck.

KBhefter2015 · May 2013

Ik. i told him that we will make the choice when i have both rings on and i see if the move around or not.

My ring has the wedding band that curves around the diamonds and twist in the band so it wouldnt look bad not solder together.

s-aries8990 · May 2013

What if you want it to turn into an heirloom piece for your grandkids? IDK, I'm on team "not solder." If they fit together tightly, you shouldn't need to.

Storm29 · May 2013

I've thought about this a lot too. I think I've decided against soldering, because I think the rings can look beautiful moving around togetherwatch the hands of women on TV shows, movies, just around town. If there's a quarter of an inch of skin between them sometimes, I think it is perfectly lovely. Also, I've seen some truly awful soldering jobs that butcher the rings, so make sure you trust your jeweled and are very clear with your expectations if you decide to solder them.

monkeysip · May 2013

I'm debating this too.

My wedding ring is curved to fit my E-ring, but it doesn't actually fit perfectly (my mistake in buying it, but it's still very beautiful and the tiny gap isn't very noticeable). I'm thinking it would be better to get them soldered since I'd never wear the wedding ring alone. It would look stupid alone. And after we're married, I don't know if I'd want to wear just the E-ring alone (since I'm married and no longer engaged). I feel like they might look better soldered.

But if I could wear the wedding ring alone, I probably wouldn't get it soldered either.

shaylagirl · May 2013

My FI asked me if I was getting mine soldered; said I didn't think I wanted to, but I'm waiting to see.

For some reason, he seemed shocked I didn't instantly say yes. I was shocked people did it, honestly! I like a variety of options as to how I'll wear my rings.

chellekel · May 2013

I play roller derby and soccer, both of which can be a bit rough. I'm not soldering my rings because I want to be able to keep on my band and take off my e-ring while playing to keep the e-ring from getting damaged.

lyndausvi · May 2013

I do not solder, but I'm weird and wear my wedding band on my right hand. It doesn't match my e-ring at all.

Anyway, my mom did not have it soldered and it's fine. My sister did have her's soldered on the recommendation of our long time family jeweler. The way the prongs are set the shape of the wedding band would rub against them causing them to wear down faster.

I get why Stage feels the way she does, but it's is true that metal on metal can wear down faster than just normal contact. Even just the motion typing can make the rings rub together. It's subtle, but over time it could weaken the rings. Now a lot of this depends on the rings themselves. The jeweler said my mom's settings were not a problem, but my sister's would be.

minskat30 · May 2013

I don't have my soldered and prefer it that way...we went to the same jewelry store that did my engagement ring, however, to make sure they did a perfect fit for the wedding band. Not sure that was needed but it looks pretty seamless.

faile556 · May 2013

Mine are soldered. I hadn't decided whether I was going to do it until after I came back from the honeymoon and either the e-ring or wedding band was spinning off in opposite directions the whole time.

And then I remembered I type for a living, so yeah... they went to the jewlers 3 days after we came back from the honeymoon trip!

jemmini6 · May 2013

I had mine soldered together before our wedding. I have 3 separate bands, my solitaire engagement ring and one diamond band on either side of it. While trying them on while buying, they already spun quite a bit, so I wanted them soldered.

I understand the appeal of wearing the rings independently, but I figured since I have a desk job and don't do a lot of activity that would make it difficult to wear my e-ring (higher setting), that I wouldn't really need that option. I've been married for a year and a half now and have worn my rings 24/7 since our wedding day and don't regret having them soldered.

I think the decision depends a lot on the rings themselves and how you plan to wear them. There's no right or wrong answer, but if you are unsure, it's easier to have them soldered later than to solder them now and find you don't like it.

cnf2013 · May 2013

In Response to Re: To Solder or Not to Solder:
[QUOTE]My FI told me i have to get it done. But i like the option of wearing one or the other. do yours rub together? i read somewhere overtime the metals will wear if i dont get it done.
Posted by KBhefter2015[/QUOTE]

Nope. My FI proposed with his grandmothers ring set still soldered together that was 70+ years old. No wear at all.

WinstonsGirl · May 2013

Ditto Stage's first post. Wear them for a few weeks and see how you feel. I wans't planning on solering mine, but then the band kept spinning, while my E ring didn't, probably from the weight of the stone. I have diamonds that go half way around, so I found I was always fiddling with them to line them up. I eventually soldered them cos it was bothering me. See what works for you.

Chellekel - I'm surprised you're allowed to wear band while playing. My league has an absolutly no jewelery policy, even if it was flat, small and couldn't catch. If you break the finger, get it off asap if possible, otherwise it will need to be cut off.

HobokensFury · May 2013

I have 2 wedding bands. Mine are not soldered together because I like being able to wear my e ring alone or just my bands.

winelover123 · May 2013

I have a fancy-shmancy clasp on my E-ring, so soldering them together would mean I couldn't use the clasp. I'll also like to wear just my E-ring or just one of my bands (I have one that fits around my ring that's plain and one with a little sparkle that in no way can sit with my ring). I'm not bothered by a little space between the two rings either, though.

It's a completely personal decision. If the metal wears down from friction, I'm fairly certain that jewelers can fix that for you by adding more gold to the band. Or at least on some rings you can. If you're really concerned about the wear in the metal and are leaning towards not getting them soldered, talk to a jeweler and see what you can do if the metal starts to wear down.

NOLAbridealmost · May 2013

Oh hellllll to the no on soldering. That's way too big a commitment,

wittykitty14 · May 2013

I'm soldering mine, for a few reasons.

The first is because my band is a "wrap-around" style, where the e-ring sits in the middle. I can't wear the band by itself because it looks silly

My e-ring was my grandmothers, it's nearly 60 years old, and is very precious to me. I don't want the rings to rub together. I will do everything possible to protect my memere's ring.

Maggie0829 · May 2013

In Response to Re: To Solder or Not to Solder:
[QUOTE]Ik. i told him that we will make the choice when i have both rings on and i see if the move around or not. My ring has the wedding band that curves around the diamonds and twist in the band so it wouldnt look bad not solder together.
Posted by KBhefter2015[/QUOTE]

Again, why should he have any say in this? You are the one that will be wearing them not him. This should be your decision alone.

OP, I always knew I didn't want them soldered together. I wanted the option of wearing just my band or both. Sometimes my engagement ring twists but very rarely. I would just wait and see what you feel like a few weeks or a month after your wedding. There is really no rush to this decision and you can get it done whenever.

Vireyda · May 2013

I had mine soldered together and I have no regrets. We had to have a band custom made to fit against my e-ring though due to it's shape. The band on it's own looks silly without the e-ring because they were designed to go together so I'd never wear the band separately. Our jeweller did a great job on the solder too.

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