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Uneven Wedding Party (help!)

lostinmusic89lostinmusic89 member
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Okay, this is kind of a story, but please read! I need advice =/

My wedding is September 7th. I had to ask one of my bridesmaids to leave the wedding party for a lot of reasons I won't list here. It was 4 GM and 4 BM, but now it is 4 and 3. I have someone I could ask to step in, but I think she was hurt I didn't ask her in the first place (I felt like I didn't know her well enough) and she is getting married in two weeks. So I don't feel comfortable asking her to step in as an after thought and then asking her to order her dress ASAP so it gets to her in time so she can have it altered. She is stressed enough as it is, I don't want to add more to her plate.

So I am trying to figure out how to have an uneven wedding party look normal. I saw things with a semicircle behind the bride and groom which I like, but I don't know how to do the processional. My fiance has a cousin he wants to be a GM, but I told him no originally for even numbers. So I could also do 5 GM and 3 BM if that spaces out better.

Basically my questions are: should I just suck it up and ask my backup BM? Should I have an uneven wedding party? Should it be 4 GM and 3 BM or 5 GM and 3 BM and how should I space them?
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  • saro2109saro2109 member
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    I think uneven numbers will be fine... I honestly wasn't even aware that this was an issue. My WP will be "uneven". If you have extra GM, have BM with a guy on either side, or vice versa if there are more BM. As OliveOilsMom said, don't fret about the photos, because you're paying the photographer to do all that kind of stuff for you. It might be a little too late to ask the extra BM now, though. 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    In Response to Re: Uneven Wedding Party (help!):
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Uneven Wedding Party (help!) : Wow, okay. I was asking for advice, and you did not read my post properly because you have the ENTIRELY wrong idea. 1) I would answer questions about my wedding party with the 5 and 3 numbers, and everyone I talked to (both moms, MoH, my aunts and grandmas, and even my fiance) said it would look weird and be awkward if it wasn't even. So I felt I was wrong in assuming uneven numbers was okay. However I quickly learned after my dilemma it was fine.  2) I didn't "kick her out" persay. After a lot of problems she was causing, we talked and she said why she was being like that (long story about her wedding) and we agreed it was better if she wasn't in it anymore. 3) I never asked my back up to be a BM. in my mind, I had her as a backup, but I did not think it was appropriate once it came the time to use it. Which is why I posted on here for advice if that was a normal thing to do, have a backup come in. I learned it is not so I am not going to ask her and keep it uneven.  So there are your assumptions corrected. Next time before you criticize someone maybe actually read what's going on.  Thanks to everyone else who gave me real advice and helped me resolve my problem. I appreciate it 
    Posted by lostinmusic89[/QUOTE]

    Telling you not to treat people like objects to be perfectly aligned is good advice.  It's just not the advice you want to hear.  You've treated people badly, and it's going to blow back on you.  You made the decision to ask the place filler and then kicked her out.  That's not how you treat people.  Trying to blame everyone all the way to grandma now is just sad.

    YOU said you kicked her out.  YOU even refer to her as "now kicked out."  You can't berate someone for not reading your post when they use the exact same words you use.  Next time, you should make sure someone isn't quoting you word for word before you accuse them of not reading what you wrote.

    The term is per se.  Persay is not a word.  

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  • lostinmusic89lostinmusic89 member
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    Alright, I am done on these boards. No one is actually reading what is going on and getting thins confused, which may be my fault because I did not want to write the very long very detailed story and had to shorten it. But everyone is very rude and quite frankly bitchy on here. This is exactly why I only had three close friends I wanted in my wedding, because women are terrible. I love this site because it has helped me plan and given me advice, but this community is absolutely awful. Good riddens. 
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  • missfrodomissfrodo member
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    In Response to Re: Uneven Wedding Party (help!):
    [QUOTE]Alright, I am done on these boards. No one is actually reading what is going on and getting thins confused, which may be my fault because I did not want to write the very long very detailed story and had to shorten it. But everyone is very rude and quite frankly bitchy on here. This is exactly why I only had three close friends I wanted in my wedding, because women are terrible. I love this site because it has helped me plan and given me advice, but this community is absolutely awful. Good riddens. 
    Posted by lostinmusic89[/QUOTE]

    *Riddance


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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    In Response to Re: Uneven Wedding Party (help!):
    [QUOTE]Alright, I am done on these boards. No one is actually reading what is going on and getting thins confused, which may be my fault because I did not want to write the very long very detailed story and had to shorten it. But everyone is very rude and quite frankly bitchy on here. This is exactly why I only had three close friends I wanted in my wedding, because women are terrible. I love this site because it has helped me plan and given me advice, but this community is absolutely awful. Good riddens. 
    Posted by lostinmusic89[/QUOTE]



    WUT? No one was rude. People gave frank, honest opinions. Just because it ain't covered in suger doesn't mean it's rude.
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