Okay, headline aside I have a tricky issue I'd love some insight/opionion on. It feels safer to post here instead of the main boards where I know I'll get the "you're an ungrateful person who is the worst ever" responses.
My question is about bridesmaids gifts.
My bridal party consists of five ladies - four are lifelong friends whom I've know for 20 years and one is my sister in law. To date, none of them have shown any interest in my wedding, asked about or offered to help with anything, or made any other attempts to participate in the process.
Two of the bridesmaids never picked up their dresses from DB. One I had to physically go get myself because the drive was "too far" for her (we're talking 20 miles) and the other BM didn't go pick up hers (she lives literally 3 minutes from DB) until I finally text her that DB left a voicemail giving me an end date to when they would hold it (because it had been left there THAT long - and they called me constantly and she knew that and still didn't bother).
My MOH is my best friend and I love her and she is interested in things but not really doing much as far as the "traditional duties" go. She is in another state and a single mom and I appreciate her being there on my big day regardless, but in respect to providing her or anyone else a gift to express my dear gratitude for all they've done to support me in getting married, well, it just feels like a joke.
I am not even having a shower or bacherlotte party unless I plan one myself. I'm bummed that my lifelong friends are not showing more interest but trying to remember this day is about me and my future husband, not about how sh*tty my friends are being. I really will get over it but I'm more and more not inclined to go out of my way for a gift of thanks.
I hope I wrote this diplomatically and logically - I am not a brat, ungrateful, spolied, self-centered etc. I love these people dearly, these people are not interested in my wedding. Nothing more, nothing less.
Thanks for listening