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father/daughter traditions, would you?

wicklesschickwicklesschick member
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Hi ladies,

I've been lurking for a little while now, and just posting now! You all seem so helpful so I thought I'd ask....

My mom raised me and my dad has been in and out of my life. He has been making an effort, I suppose, as of late. I want my mom to walk me down the aisle, because I believe she should be honored for doing the raising...but I don't know what to do with the father daughter dance. I know it would hurt his feelings if I didn't do one (especially considering my man will be doing one with his mom) but I think I would feel awkward dancing to a traditional "letting me go" song. 

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!
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Re: father/daughter traditions, would you?

  • stfdsarah3451stfdsarah3451 member
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    Outside of childsupport $$ and his surname, my daughter has had no connection with her Dad; after the usual congratulary remarks upon engagement, my "questions 3" (Monty Python!), 1. Can I walk you down the aisle? (yes) 2. Do I get the 'parent' dance? (yes - The Last Waltz - The Band ) 3. Can I wear a green dress with shamrocks? ( Of course!).
    Ladies, relax! Enjoy yourselves! The wedding will commence regardless of no shows, ney sayers, something that someone forgot to bring or do, etc., etc., ETCETRAAAAA!!!!! Keep your focus, and enjoy riding above all of it, because it is simply the first day of the rest of your life with your future spouse! Blessings to all!  :-))!
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  • vanityinkvanityink member
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    My father and I didn't do a dance, and we had a very close relationship (DH and I just didn't want to do spotlight dances) Perhaps he was a little disappointed, but he got over it. If you want to do one, do one (it doesn't have to be to a sappy father/daughter song. I know one bride here was talking about dancing to the Beatles "Blackbird" you can really choose whatever) but if you aren't comfortable with it, you simply don't have to. 
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  • allispainallispain member
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    Do what feels right for you. If you would feel awkward or uncomfortable doing a spotlight dance with him, then don't do one. If you would rather do one but to an upbeat song, do that.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    Spotlight dances are not required (and too many gets tedious for your guests).  We ended up combining the parent dances, so I danced with my dad, and H with his mom during the same song.  We also invited our guests to join us halfway through the song, so it was only a spotlight dance for about the first minute and a half.
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  • leelabearleelabear member
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    You don't have to do a "letting you go" song. Pick something that would be meaningful to what good memories you might have with him. If AC/DC is something meaningfull for the both of you, do that. Also, I've seen some couples combine the mother/son dance with the father/daughter dance. One song, dance at the same time, then get back to normal wedding business. Make sure your FI and his mother are okay with that.

    If he is making an effort, maybe it would be a nice gesture. Keep in mind you can do an additional dance with just you and your mother.

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