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B&B Wedding & Sleeping arrangement

dswongerdswonger member
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Background: My fiance and I are looking at having our wedding at a B&B in Talkeetna, AK. The groom's family is all out of state, and so we wanted to make travel arrangements simpler for everyone. The B&B has enough room to sleep all of our out-of-town guests and our wedding party, because there are large rooms and cabins that sleep up to 8 people. We were going to rent the entire place for five days, make gift baskets for everyone who's staying at the B&B to make them more welcome in the area. There are not many places in Talkeetna that are close to other lodging options, and as the groom's family never been there, we thought it'd be more convenient.

Issue: We're paying the down payment (1/2 the rental fee), and want our guests to pay the other half, since the location is doubling as their sleeping accommodations. It would come down to $200 per person total for five days (as opposed to the regular sleeping rate of $200 per night at least).
  1. Can we do this?
  2. If so, how do we go about doing this? Would I just set up a PayPal account or something?
Thank you in advance,
Di

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  • zizibetzizibet member
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    It's rude. You're essentially asking guests to pay to for your wedding.
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    There was just a thread about a similar topic.  You might want to take a look at the replies there, I think a lot of the issues will be the same for your situation in terms of taking money from guests and trying to overplan your guests' trips for them.  http://forums-beta.theknot.com/discussion/975825/is-it-okay-to-ask-close-family-and-friends-to-help-pay-for-wedding-rental

    Is it in budget at all for you to pay for your out of town guests to stay?  I have been to Talkeetna, and it's awesome, but it's quite the trip.  Also, if you have people coming in from out-of-state, I don't know that they'll want to spend 5 days in Talkeetna rather than traveling around a bit, especially if they've never been to the area. 
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    dswonger said:
    Background: My fiance and I are looking at having our wedding at a B&B in Talkeetna, AK. The groom's family is all out of state, and so we wanted to make travel arrangements simpler for everyone. The B&B has enough room to sleep all of our out-of-town guests and our wedding party, because there are large rooms and cabins that sleep up to 8 people. We were going to rent the entire place for five days, make gift baskets for everyone who's staying at the B&B to make them more welcome in the area. There are not many places in Talkeetna that are close to other lodging options, and as the groom's family never been there, we thought it'd be more convenient.

    Issue: We're paying the down payment (1/2 the rental fee), and want our guests to pay the other half, since the location is doubling as their sleeping accommodations. It would come down to $200 per person total for five days (as opposed to the regular sleeping rate of $200 per night at least).
    1. Can we do this?
    2. If so, how do we go about doing this? Would I just set up a PayPal account or something?
    Thank you in advance,
    Di

    As a guest, I would never stay 5 nights.  I'm not going to make your wedding my vacation.

    Don't ask people to pay, even if it meant they got lodging.  Either pay to rent the entire place out and give the option to the guests to stay there (without asking them for money) or find a different place that fits your budget.  Good luck!
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  • hordolhordol member
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    5 days is such a long time to require a guest to stay for a wedding...that's the part I don't understand.
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    You have chosen to rent out the entire site so you have to pay for it.  In full.  If your OOT guests can call up the B&B directly and book a room and pay $200 for their stay you can offer that, but you should not ask them to pay you for anything and you should be prepared to cover the full tab if none of them decide to stay there.

    And there is no way I would stay in a "large room...that sleeps up to 8 people"

    Seriously, what is up today? This is like the 5th question about this exact same issue.

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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    There is no way I would want to stay in a room with 7 other people for 5 nights for your wedding.  Absolutely none.  I would pick a different venue, one that doesn't come with an obligation for you to pay for all of the rooms yourself, because that's what will wind up happening.  People can book their own B&B rooms just fine- your plan is only helping you, not them.
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  • ash241ash241
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    This sounds like a college dorm with 8ppl bunking together. no thanks, I like privacy.
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    Nothing to add, I just wanted to say, YAY, a fellow Alaskan bride!  It doesn't seem like there are many of us on here.  I live in Alaska and got married just outside of Palmer.
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  • Belle0720Belle0720 member
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    Everything PPs said.

    We are getting married at a small wine country resort (10 rooms). We've offered up their rooms to our immediate family and they've almost all decided to stay. They're booking their rooms directly with the resort at a discounted rate (we're covering the rest because it's a bit pricey and we didn't want them to have to fork out that much). The resort does require that we book out all of the rooms (it might be a bit odd to have a random guest swimming in the pool in the middle of our cocktail hour) so we are fully prepared to pay for all or any of the rooms if people choose not to stay.

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  • MsYeckMsYeck member
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    What you could do is plan on paying for the whole facility yourself but list the place at as a stay location for $100-$200 and for those that call the hotel to book they can just make payment towards your existing balance.
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