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Shower invites don't list where we're registered.

AngelaReneeClaireAngelaReneeClaire member
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A bit of a vent. I just received my shower invitation in the mail and it didn't list where I'm registered. My FI and I are living with our parents to save money before the wedding - aka, we don't have stuff - and the hostess is fully aware of that. I don't want to be ungrateful, but isn't showering the couple with gifts what a shower is for? I figure normally people would just call the hostess/MOB to ask where we're registered, but the invitation says at the bottom, (where registry info would normally go) "Please bring the Bride your favorite recipe to share." Do you think people will assume they're doing that instead of gifts? I was told by the hostess that it would be a normal shower, not something like a pounding party. So I don't think it's something like that... Oh well.

Anyway, I'm very thankful that they're even throwing me a shower. And if all I get is recipes, I will still be thankful. Just confused.
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  • misshart00misshart00 member
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    If I got an invitation like that, I would still bring a traditional gift. Don't worry about it; it's easy to find a registry.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I wouldn't worry about it either.  Your registries ought to be available online.
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  • NYCBride2013NYCBride2013 member
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    If I received that invitation in the mail I would google your name to find your registry and bring a gift with the recipe card.  I would never show up to a shower with just a recipe card. 

    ETA: I have never heard of receiving an invitation to your own shower.  Is this normal?
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  • AJuliaNJAJuliaNJ member
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    NYCBride2013 said:
    If I received that invitation in the mail I would google your name to find your registry and bring a gift with the recipe card.  I would never show up to a shower with just a recipe card. 

    ETA: I have never heard of receiving an invitation to your own shower.  Is this normal?
    Me, too. It is so easy to find where people are registered. Plus people will ask when they RSVP. Many shower invitations go out without that information because people are divided on whether it is even okay to include it.

    I received invitations to both of my showers. I think the hosts just wanted me to have a copy for sentimental reasons; it wasn't really intended to "invite" me to my own shower.
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  • AngelaReneeClaireAngelaReneeClaire member
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    I'm sure you're right. I guess I kind of knew in the back of my mind that something like this might happen (FI's almost 80 year old grandmother decided she would do invitations) and I'm a little bummed I didn't think to say anything about it beforehand. It'll be okay.
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  • AngelaReneeClaireAngelaReneeClaire member
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    AndreaJulia said:
    ETA: I have never heard of receiving an invitation to your own shower.  Is this normal?
    I received invitations to both of my showers. I think the hosts just wanted me to have a copy for sentimental reasons; it wasn't really intended to "invite" me to my own shower.
    Yep. My invitation had a note about being a keepsake.
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  • AngelaReneeClaireAngelaReneeClaire member
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    TXKristan said:
    I can't lie ... when I saw the invite for my shower and it didn't have registry info, I was kinda bummed, too.  I contacted the hostess (who is a very dear friend of the family) and told her how much I loved the invites (which I did).  And I said "oh, if anyone asks where we are registered, here are links"

    It'll be fine.  
    Oooh, subtle. I like it.
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  • annathy03annathy03 member
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    The first bridal shower I ever went to was like that.  Since I wasn't sure having not been to one I came with the recipe and a gift card for the couple, everyone else had brought either a gift card, something from the registry, or intimate apparel.  In other words, don't worry about it, your guests will figure it out :)
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  • Amyliz1215Amyliz1215 member
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    Is anyone else wondering what a pounding party is? Just curious!
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    Sleeper2013 said:
    Amyliz1215 said:
    Is anyone else wondering what a pounding party is? Just curious!
    I just Googled it.  Apparently it's a gift giving event involving groceries and cleaning supplies...
    Or that's what we tell our fiances...haha!
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    Amyliz1215 said:
    Is anyone else wondering what a pounding party is? Just curious!
    My understanding is it's basically supposed to stock the pantry - a pound of sugar, a pound of flour, etc.  hence "pounding"

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  • AngelaReneeClaireAngelaReneeClaire member
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    Kate61487 said:
    Amyliz1215 said:
    Is anyone else wondering what a pounding party is? Just curious!
    My understanding is it's basically supposed to stock the pantry - a pound of sugar, a pound of flour, etc.  hence "pounding"
    That's the definition I've heard.
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  • Amyliz1215Amyliz1215 member
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    Makes sense. I was afraid to google "pounding party" - not sure what's would end up with! It is interesting to hear about the different regional/cultural parties that people have. I've never heard of a pounding party, but was surprised when I learned about a year ago that a Pollyanna is a regional thing. I thought everyone knew what a Pollyanna was! (It is a secret Santa type gift exchange where everyone brings a wrapped gift and sits in a circle. Music is played and when the music stops whatever gift you end up with is the gift you get. I'm sure there are other ways to do it but that's the way I remember it)
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  • wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    Maybe a registry insert wasn't included in your own invite because it's your shower?  You're not buying yourself a gift.  Do you know if anyone else got one?

    I'd also like to add that my MOH did the same thing.  She addressed the shower invite to me, my mom, and sister.  (Although why she addressed it to me I'm not sure-it's supposed to be a surprise.  Luckily FI stopped me from seeing it!)  An insert wasn't in there either, and I know she has them.  My guess is that she saved what she had for everyone else, because my mom already knows.  Then again, maybe she just forgot.  :)

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  • Xstatic3333Xstatic3333 member
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    I just got an invite to my shower for FI's family and that didn't have registry info either. I know they figured it out, though, because we're already getting gifts in the mail from that side of the family. They'll figure it out!
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