MOH ISSUES!!!!!!!!

mandijohney · May 2013

So I had to take my dress in on the 5th of this month for alterations (my wedding is June 15). The night before the appointment my MOH backed out on going with me with an excuse to go look at cars with her boyfriend, mind she has known about the appointment for months, she was there when i made the appointment and we had been talking about it. So i moved on from that, now I find out she is asking one of my bridesmaids what the wedding date is!!!! What am I going to do? At this point I am ready to lose it, I am very upset with her! She is my best friend, she has been there since the beginning of the planning, and she does not know the date of the wedding!!! Am i over reacting?

Viczaesar · May 2013

Yes, you are major league overreacting. There is nothing to do. This is a non-issue. It is not her job to go to your wedding dress fittings, so there was no need for you to "move on" from that issue in the first place.

Viczaesar · May 2013

mandijohney said:

So I had to take my dress in on the 5th of this month for alterations (my wedding is June 15). The night before the appointment my MOH backed out on going with me with an excuse to go look at cars with her boyfriend, mind she has known about the appointment for months, she was there when i made the appointment and we had been talking about it. So i moved on from that, now I find out she is asking one of my bridesmaids what the wedding date is!!!! What am I going to do? At this point I am ready to lose it, I am very upset with her! She is my best friend, she has been there since the beginning of the planning, and she does not know the date of the wedding!!! Am i over reacting?

JIC

PrettyGirlLost · May 2013

Yes, overreacting.

Why do you need your MoH or anything else present for fittings or alterations?

mandijohney · May 2013

I had wanted her to go to the fitting because when i picked it out we went a different route on lacing the back up, I am not using the ribbon that comes with it and I am using multiple ribbons on the back. She was the only one that knew how we laced it up.

lyndausvi · May 2013

yes.

calliopeia2013 · May 2013

mandijohney said:

I had wanted her to go to the fitting because when i picked it out we went a different route on lacing the back up, I am not using the ribbon that comes with it and I am using multiple ribbons on the back. She was the only one that knew how we laced it up.

Is she usually flaky about stuff like this? It's not her job to go to dress fittings, but if she volunteered and then backed out at the last minute, that's obviously rude of her, the same as it is when anyone makes plans with someone else and then backs out at the last minute. Is this in character for her?

I wouldn't worry about the wedding date thing at all, that's the sort of thing that probably has a perfectly reasonable explanation and isn't a big deal even if it doesn't.

AddieCake · May 2013

I don't really understand the problem. What do you mean, what are you going to do? About what, exactly? I get being upset about the fitting b/c of the lacing, but as far as not knowing the date?

Kate61487 · May 2013

We have 8 weddings this summer. H is in two of them. He frequently asks me what the dates are for those two. He cares for his friends very much, but until the answer to "when is it, again?" is "tomorrow" it really doesn't matter to anyone but you.

I'm sorry she left you hanging on how to lace up the dress. Though I wouldn't think how you lace it would really make a difference for the fitting; the nature of a corset backed dress is that it's adjustable.

phira · May 2013

Yeah, major league overreacting.

Especially about the date. Your wedding date is extremely meaningful to you and your partner, as it should be! But it's not a meaningful date for anyone else. (And I'm talking about the calendar date, not the importance of the event.) I only remembered my brother-in-law's wedding date because it was the day after we were moving, and THAT was a meaningful date to me!

Peledreamsofrain · May 2013

You are aware that most gowns can be loosly laced while on backwards, then rotated around and tightened? Like when you were a teenager and first figuring out bras?

Bubblegum5586 · May 2013

calliopeia2013 said:

mandijohney said:

I had wanted her to go to the fitting because when i picked it out we went a different route on lacing the back up, I am not using the ribbon that comes with it and I am using multiple ribbons on the back. She was the only one that knew how we laced it up.

Is she usually flaky about stuff like this? It's not her job to go to dress fittings, but if she volunteered and then backed out at the last minute, that's obviously rude of her, the same as it is when anyone makes plans with someone else and then backs out at the last minute. Is this in character for her?

I wouldn't worry about the wedding date thing at all, that's the sort of thing that probably has a perfectly reasonable explanation and isn't a big deal even if it doesn't.

This was what I was thinking. When my best friend got married last summer, she picked a ton of flaky girls to be her BMs because she loved them. They bailed on things often and it bummed her out... but at the end of the day she knew that it was likely going to happen.

I understand why you are frusterated though. Its annoying when someone says they will do something with you and bail last minute, whether it is weddnig related or not its still rude. But there's nothing you can really "do" about it. Good Luck!

Jessa617 · May 2013

When I went for my final fitting I went by myself. I asked my (at the time) FSILs if they think they can figure out a bustle. They said "how hard could it be", and guess what... they figured it out!

You're overreacting. Move on and start worrying about more important things.

coopsbaby · May 2013

All 6 of the people in our wedding party asked us when the wedding was in the month or two beforehand. Everyone was there, on time and all was fine. It doesn't mean she's not planning on being there or doesn't have it on her calendar, it's just not foremost in her thoughts like it is yours.

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