Ahh I'm panicking

laradoll · May 2013

The wedding is in 33 days from now and no way are things ready - at all !!!!

in 33 days - bloody hell

This isn't going to go well

AddieCake · May 2013

What isn't ready? I had things not ready at 33 days and wasn't panicked. Now, if I didn't have a venue or a dress, I'd be panicked.

laradoll · May 2013

Haven't started looking at hairstyles

Have no hairdresser for me or for BM

No make up artist

No accessorie

No shoes

No favours

Haven't sorted transportation

Haven't got or started thank you notes

Haven't sorted music

Haven't decided if we need stuff for kids

Don't know what my old, new etc things are

Haven't sorted all the ceremony and reception decor

laradoll · May 2013

LingerLonger1 said:

laradoll said:

Haven't started looking at hairstyles Go with something simple you can do at home- half up do, hair down and curled, something like that.
Have no hairdresser for me or for BM If you follow my suggestion above you won't need to figure this out.
No make up artist Do your own makeup. It will take one more thing off your plate and it will be one less expense for you
No accessorie You don't really need accessories
No shoes You should probably get shoes but this doesn't have to be some big production. Go to Payless and find some shoes that are comfy and fit you.
No favours You don't need favors. Skip these.
Haven't sorted transportation Talk to your MOH or BM and ask them to drive you form ceremony to reception and then back to the ceremony location at the end of the night to get your car- done.
Haven't got or started thank you notes This close to the big day the people that sent you gifts ahead of time probably aren't going to expect the TYs right this moment. Go buy a couple of packs at a craft store and start working on them as you watch TV or something.
Haven't sorted music This should probably be done. If you have a DJ or band, leave it up to them. Otherwise, start working on this one.
Haven't decided if we need stuff for kids Your kids? Nah don't worry about it. Put them in some nice clothing they already own and call it a day.
Don't know what my old, new etc things are You don't need these things to get married. If you're getting down to the wire don't worry about them. One less stress will be a good thing.
Haven't sorted all the ceremony and reception decor This can be super simple. People aren't going to care about the decor so just go with something easy.

I crossed off the things you don't have to worry about before the wedding, and also left my comments in bold above.

The things left on the list you should look into but don't necessarily have to be a big deal.

Thanks

But ....

I can't do hair - at all- it's either a pony or down and I don't want that on my wedding day

I have zero skills in make up no way am I doing my own

I don't even have underwear for my dress

Thankfully ceremony and reception right next door to each other but BM are all kids and we just sold our car. so that isn't an option and don't want to ask anyone else because it stops others drinking and the like

I'm not getting married without my 'old new etc' simply I want to do them

Not our kids but lots and lots of guests have kids

No DJ/Band just speakers and a 'play all' on the laptop

laradoll · May 2013

LingerLonger1 said:

If you're going to make things difficult on yourself don't bicth about it. I tried ot help you by showing you what you could cut out of your list if you're as stressed out as your first post indicates. If not, go on with your bad self and plan all this siht you don't actually need to plan.

You probably should be panicking if you're just over a month out, have almost nothing planned, and refuse to let go of anything you want. This won't end well for you.

Sorry if my reply came off as rude I didn't mean it to be. We have already cut a lot out of wedding (different venue include, size) most things because we had to move it forward. And while I'm fine with that I do want to have some remnant of my original wedding

I have taken some of your advice but the fact is I crap at hair and makeup so ding it myself would be a good option for many but not for me

Taking ourselves may work but for us at this time it doesn't

I am panicking I'm trying to put together a wedding with no time, with a FH who can't help and trying to plan a new life in a new country, and try to do our home. I'm ridiculously stressed I don't mean to take it out on you at all but the fact is I'm in panic mode

hordol · May 2013

I have 39 days left and haven't done most of that stuff either. It will all be fine!

I did pick out a hair style, that doesn't take too long if you're not super picky. Also, you could try asking a hair stylist what they think would look best on you if you're really not sure (that's why I always do because I suck at such things.)

If you aren't trying to do onsite hair or makeup, that can be pretty easy to figure out and not too expensive, either. I am paying for my bridesmaids and me to have our makeup done at Ulta the morning of--only $30/person. You could also look into Sephora (they do it for free if you buy $50 worth of product, which is an awesome deal if you ask me and if there had been a Sephora near my venue, it's what I would have done.) You can also look at the makeup counters at Macy's, too.

For the hair, just make an appointment for the morning of at a salon and stop in. You can have your bridesmaids do their own hair and makeup if you want and then there is one less stress on your plate.

Music might be the next thing you want to figure out. You can scratch favors, though--I am. They are kind of a waste of money in my opinion because no one will even notice if they are not there. That is up to you though, everyone has different priorities.

If the reception venue is right next door, why can't you/they walk? Just because they are kids doesn't mean they aren't capable of walking a short distance. They obviously should walk with an adult, but still.

I haven't thought of my old/new/borrowed/blue yet, either, and I haven't decided if I'm going to. That shouldn't take too long, though, assuming you're not too picky. You could have a blue garter (if you are planning on having one) or borrow a necklace. I'm assuming your dress is new (maybe not) but if so there's that!

Good luck! I was so excited today when I realized my countdown was in the 30s.

ETA: Sorry for the novel!

Peledreamsofrain · May 2013

Make each decision, knovk one out per day if you can't handle more, and just get stuff done. The more you sit and obsess, the less you accomplish.

For instance, tonight is 'take care of playlist' night. Sit and do it until it's done. Hell, take a playlist off of he internet. There's lists and lists of songs out there for weddings.

perfectisboring · May 2013

I agree with everything LingerLonger1 said with regards to the things you should cut.

My wedding is Thursday, and I have no idea about hair or makeup. I don't have any budget to get my hair or makeup done professionally, so I'm going to do it on my own. If you have the budget, I'd advise making an appointment with a salon now. If not, head over to a cosmetics counter at a department store and get someone to help you pick out some products and show you how to apply them for your big day. They'll be making a sale, so they'll be happy to help.

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