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Leaving during reception for sunset pics and need help with wedding timeline and start time!

We are getting married on the beach and having our reception at a house on the beach next to the ceremony site (walking distance).  We want to have sunset pictures, but we cannot get them until 6:30-7. Our reception must end at 10:00 due to policies so we do not want to start our ceremony later because we do not want a short 3 hour reception to cram everything in. That being said, we would like the ceremony to start at either 4:30 or 5:00 (it will only be a half an hour tops) with cocktail hour immediately following. When is a good time during the reception to leave for sunset photos? I thought maybe once we cut the cake, it would be passed around and that is when we would go take photos? I don't know..help me brides!!! I was also thinking of only keeping cocktail hour a half hour after the wedding while I take family photos then go straight into the reception. There is no need to take an entire hour if my fiance and I will be taking more pics during sunset.

I dont know if this matters, but it will be a small wedding with about 50 people and it is destination. (In Florida, family is from up north) I doubt my family would be upset if we left for 25 minutes for extra photos, we just need to know at what point in the wedding we should have that happen?

Itinerary help is much needed!! I really hope this didn't confuse anyone.

Re: Leaving during reception for sunset pics and need help with wedding timeline and start time!

  • I doubt my family would be upset if we left for 25 minutes for extra photos, we just need to know at what point in the wedding we should have that happen?

    You can't say for sure that they would care or not, so why risk it? I think it's super rude to leave a party you are throwing or where people want to spend time with you, since you're the reason they are there in the first place.
    How about getting back into your clothes for pictures the next day, instead?
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  • edited May 2013
    That's a good idea, I may consider that. I just figured I would be gone an hour either way for "photos" it would just be split up a half an hour each instead of being gone an entire hour at one time.
  • sara5ann said:
    That's a good idea, I may consider that. I just figured I would be gone an hour either way for "photos" it would just be split up a half an hour each instead of being gone an entire hour at one time.
    It's like at any other party... birthday party or even a family bbq. You might take pictures beforehand, but to leave during the party isn't really nice to your guests.

    The cocktail hour is before the reception, during a time JUST after you got married. Guests expect you to take a moment and deal with other issues, like paying the officiant, spending time with your new husband, and taking pictures. This is why you have a cocktail hour, so guests are properly hosted while you deal with these things so that they can be done before the reception.
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  • We stepped outside during the reception to take pictures, but it was only for about 10 minutes - 5 of which involved some of my H's family members coming outside to chat with us. I would not leave for very long, but if you two can step just outside your venue and take a handful of shots then sneak back in, that'd be fine. 

    I think a good standard is don't take longer than you would in the bathroom. Your guests are there to see you, so disappearing for long periods of time is not a good idea.
  • We snuck out for 15-20 minutes after we cut the cake.  I needed to change my shoes and lose the heels and we wanted some pictures inside the venue (it was a Tudor mansion - lots of dark wood, old light fixtures, and built ins).  By that point we'd done all of our table visits, dinner was over, and most guests were visiting and/or dancing the night away.  I don't know if anyone noticed or not. No one said anything.
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