Anyone veto having a bridal shower?

Re: Anyone veto having a bridal shower?

• crazycatladyk

  

  July 2009

  I turned down the vague suggestion of one because we can't keep physical gifts. So what's the point of a shower then? None. So no shower.

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• PhoneCardLady member

  

  May 2013

  This will be his second, my first. While I probably wouldn't veto a shower, I would hope that it would be things that I really need - linens, bath towels, sheets, and things like that.  Perhaps a specific coffee maker.  I wouldn't mind a pounding shower with a tried and true recipe, or one with cleaning supplies.
  

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• MuppetFan member

  

  May 2013

  kimberlyjj81 said:

  Hi all - I'm wondering if anyone here didn't feel comfortable having a bridal shower.  My MOH wants to plan one, but we don't have a lot of family in town and it just seems sort of gift-grabby-look-at-me ish.  Do shower guests usually just give one gift at the shower, or also another to the wedding?  Two gifts seem unnecessary to me.  I'd rather, if anyone had to make a trip for two events, to come to a bachelorette party and the wedding.  My mother, MOH, and friends say I'm skipping out on a good opportunity for gifts.  Am I?  Was yours worth it? 

  Normally 2 gifts. Normally one from the registry for your shower and a monetary gift at the wedding. 
  
  You are in the right mindset, your wedding isn't about getting gifts and your friends are silly for suggesting it is, but it's not gift grabby to have a shower.
  
  If you are interested in having one, you sure can. If it makes you uncomfortable, you can feel free to decline.
  
  This is my second wedding, his first. We have everything we need. I still have everything my family gave me from the first round  and we buy what we need. I feel really uncomfortable about having a second one with my family because (logically or not) I'm still embarrassed about being divorced.
  My family agreed that they'd feel uncomfortable going to one.
  
  My FI's family is upset about it. If they threw one for me, we would accept it, but I have no idea who they'd invite since there's not a lot of people they know who would go that I've met more than once in my life.
  

    
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• ohmrs2014 mod

  

  May 2013

  At first I was against having one because I just don't like them, I find bridal showers to be boring and such.  But FI said it would be a great idea because we aren't living together, therefore we need pretty much everything.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• jemmini6 member

  

  May 2013

  I declined having a bridal shower.  Mostly it was because I don't really care for showers, and definitely NOT shower games.  I know there's no way my family would let me get away having a shower without them, so I wanted to skip it all together.

  
  

  But it was also because H and I had been living together for a few years already and had a lot of the stuff we needed, so there was only about 20 items on our registry which would obviously make it difficult for a shower of 30+ people.  

  
  

  I don't regret not having a shower.  We did get several of the items we did register for, but mostly received cash for our wedding, which was preferable since it allowed us to add items as needed (we did decide to buy an awesome down comforter after enjoying the one from our HM, which wasn't something we thought to add before our wedding).

  
  

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  May 2013

  I declined a bridal shower. I'm having a destination wedding and with half the guest list out of state, including all of my family, it just seemed silly to ask people to travel twice or to have a shower with the same friends I hang out with every weekend anyway.
  

  "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"

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• phira member

  

  May 2013

  My partner and I have already decided that we are not going to have a shower. We already live together, and while we're planning on having a registry, it's mostly because a lot of our household goods are very old, hand-me-downs, and/or in very rough shape. However, I've always been uncomfortable at bridal showers, and I don't want to confuse people and lead them to believe they have to get us two gifts.

  
  

  If you don't want a shower, kindly but firmly decline. Be nice about it because these folks love you and have great intentions! But be firm--you are not refusing to have a shower AT them.

  

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