I am going to vent about two completely separate issues in this post haha.
The first is when I brought some of my WP to a bridal salon while I tried on dresses the other day. They all wanted to look at bridesmaids dresses while we were there, which I was totally fine with. I feel as if I have been SO accommodating for them, and have been very clear from the beginning that I want short, chiffon dresses that are a blush/tea rose pallet. I am fine with whatever they pick out after that. From the beginning I have heard complaints (only from two of them) of "but we want to wear a darker color dress" and I've mostly just brushed it off. I understand not everyone enjoys the color I have chosen, but I have been clear from the day I have asked that it is the color they have to wear.
Anyway, they wanted to see an example of the color on a dress, and kept asking me to show them. There literally was not one sample dress in the color, and I kept explaining that. But I was still asked 15 times "we want to see this color you are talking about!!" Finally, I asked someone who worked there to bring me the color swatches, so I could show them, but they threw a big fit because it wasn't on any of the dresses. (Mind you, this isn't even where we are going to purchase their gowns, only where I purchased mine.) They continued to look at gowns and I pointed out what chiffon was, and once again I heard more and more complaints. "We don't want to wear that, we want to wear the shiny one." I explained that they photograph very differently, and I don't want satin or silk dresses. But once again, they must have said 15 more times that they like the "shiny" dresses so much better.
I was starting to become extremely frustrated at this point, but I just kind of stepped back and didn't even participate while they looked at bridesmaids dresses. Not that I am not concerned about what they wear, but as I explained many times that night, we have PLENTY of time to look for their dresses, the wedding isn't for another 10 months, and we aren't going to purchase the dresses at that place anyway. I felt as if they were getting all upset over nothing.
The final straw is when they started asking about shoes. I don't wear heels, so I am wearing boots under my dress. 4 of my bridesmaids requested that they wear boots, and I said I don't mind what they wear for shoes, as long as all 5 of them wear the same type. So either they all wear pumps or another type of dress shoe, or they all wear boots. I really don't mind either way. Well, the 5th bridesmaid throws a FIT at this point "I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW YOU THINK YOU CAN MAKE ALL OF THESE DECISIONS ABOUT WHAT WE ARE GOING TO WEAR! I want to wear the shiny dresses with pumps and look hot!"
At this point I just stopped being nice. I couldn't take it. I told her that majority of the weddings I have been to/in the bride has said "this is the hairstyle, dress, jewelry, shoes, etc. that you HAVE to wear" and all of the bridesmaids look like clones and that is the end of it. I have a few things I want them to have in common, but besides that I am trying to make them as comfortable as possible! And I think I can make these decisions about fabric and color schemes because IT IS MY WEDDING. I understand I am not paying for their shoes, which is why I said I didn't mind what they did, as long as all 5 agreed. I honestly don't know how I am going to make it when we actually go looking at bridesmaid dresses....