too many ring bearers?

Re: too many ring bearers?

• duckie1905 member

  

  November 2009

  I think four ring bearers would be overkill.  I would be inclined to either pick one or not include any.  Maybe talk to their parents and see if they would even want to be included.  Perhaps some of the boys are shy and wouldn't be comfortable in the role.  Unfortunately, there isn't much for little boys to do in a wedding aside from RB.
  
  Or, if you feel uncomfortable choosing, you don't have to have a FG or RB at all.  Or, you can just have a flower girl.

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• lilcassers member

  

  November 2009

  yea this is tough... I have no kids in my family but my FI has 9 neices and 4 nephews, that will be fun choosing from that group. The feelings of guilt are horrible! I never want to hurt a childs feelings or piss off the parent. This is hard... I would talk to the parents first. Perhaps a couple of the little boys are from one parent, that way if you choose one, it wouldn't be like you are not choosingany from one family?

  

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• RedSoxGirl10

  

  November 2009

  I don't see why you can't have four, who cares?
  
  When I was younger my uncle was the youngest in the family (of adults) and last to get married. He wanted to include all his nieces and nephews, there were at least 10-12 of us at the time. We all walked down the aisle. I now have a coworker who is friends with my uncle, she said everyone thought it was awesome with everyone walking down.
  
  I teach kindergarten and I have considered having all my kids come down just to walk down the aisle, I would do it if the logistics wouldn't be a nightmare. The kids will remember it forever and no one is going to care how many ring bearers there are.

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• jma1983

  

  November 2009

  I was just in a wedding that had 2 RB and 1 FG.  So, you could do that and then maybe ask the other 2 boys (if they're old enough) to hand out programs at the door or something of that sort.

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• Jamilynn627 member

  

  November 2009

  In most cases, the ring bearers don't even bear the real rings anyway. I don't think anyone would bat an eyelash if you had them all just walk down the aisle together in tuxedos. They'll look cute and that seems to be one of the main ideas behind including children in weddings.

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• TurtlesAllTheWayDown member

  

  November 2009

  I was just at a wedding with 3 flower girls and 4 ring bearers (all neices and nephews of the couple). Trust me, it was overkill. Unless maybe you're inviting 800 people to your wedding. I'd lean towards no RBs.

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• dizzy10

  

  November 2009

  I was in the same boat as you only we had to choose from 3 not 4. So in this dilemma i came up with an idea.
  I am going to have 1 ring bear and 2 train bearers. I am having an outdoor wedding and I want the 2 train bearers to help carry the back of my dress and make sure it doesnt get caught on anything. Maybe you could have 2 ring bearers and 2 train bearers if you have a train on your dress.

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• sarahjohnson2010

  

  November 2009

  Thanks for all the tips ladies! I'm still not quite sure what to do yet, but I definitely have more ideas about how to incorporate them without hurting any feelings!

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• newgate309

  

  November 2009

  We're having 3 flower girls because our cousins are just dying to do it. They're all going to be a bit old, 9 and 10, but we don't care. 

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• goheels05

  

  November 2009

  8 is about 4 years too old to be a ring bearer.  They are little boys; I don't think any of them are going to feel left out over not being in a wedding.  If you don't believe me, ask their mom.

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• MightyMaddie

  

  May 2013

  I think this is what I am doing too! 8 flower girls (more flowers =awesome!) and 5 ring bearers.... they will all go sit with their parents after walking down...I think it is so cute!

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• laradoll member

  

  May 2013

  In the royal wedding Kate and Prince William had 2 page boys

  Di and Charles also had 2

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  Technically a ring bearer is a specific page boy so you have 1 ring bearer who is a page boy just has a specific role to do as a page boy. You can have as many page boys as you like. 

   4 is fine

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• AJuliaNJ member

  

  May 2013

  I'm not really a kid person so it would be overkill to me personally. However, if you truly want all 4 boys in the wedding equally, I'd ask all 4. If you are asking some of them out of guilt, I'd ask none or just the ones I really want. It would be rude for anyone to ask you why you selected one boy over the others. 

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