Guest List Question

Zimsgirl · October 2011

I figured you ladies would best be able to help. So FI wants to invite some guys to his unit but not all and isn't sure how to invite some without inviting all of them. So he doesn't have any one the list right now and we send out STDs next month. How would you go about handling this?

LetsHikeToday · October 2011

Well during our wedding planning, H wasn't on a boat and therefore not around his group SO if what I'm about to say OS wrong, anyone feel free to educate me. But I will say that I work in a school and everyone knew about our wedding. I only invited.3 coworkers and didn't feel pressure to invite more or invite my principal. I just didn't talk about it much at school. It might be different in the military but it's my personal belief that guest lists shouldn't be limitless (unless that's what you're going for) and it's perfectly acceptable to not invite people- just watch how much you talk about it. Edit: terrible iPad typing.

ggirl2001 · October 2011

Just don't send any of them an STD yet.

But, FTR, H and I did not invite everyone in his shop. We invited the ones he is closest too.

Rethany · October 2011

I agree with PP's. Only invite those he is closest with and keep the wedding talk to a minimum. FI is only inviting those he is closest with and I'm almost positive we aren't sending them STDs either.

firsttimersluck · October 2011

We didn't send out STDs to people in H's squadron because.. they are right here in town. So they don't need that kind of "heads up" like travelling family does.
We pretty much waited until the last minute to invite our squadron people, which was a smart move because it wasn't until like.. two weeks before the wedding that people knew wheter or not they could come.

We knew to invite the XO/CO so those were checks. Then H printed off the list of officers in the squadron and we went through and crossed off the "absolutely nots" and then went through and decided who we BOTH know, BOTH have hung out with outside of the military functions, and circled those people. (we crossed off all the people we knew couldn't make it as well because of being on dets or whatnot).
H also crossed off all the names of guys that he thought, "If I were to ask him what's my fiance's name he wouldn't have a clue." lol.
And that pretty much narrowed it down. The squadron guest list was the most stressful part of the wedding planning.. but people will understand that you can't invite EVERYONE in his unit for purely financial reasons.
I'm sure we hurt some feelings but oh well. We had a fair system and that was that.

KendallR10 · October 2011

FI and I aren't inviting anyone from his unit

Zimsgirl · October 2011

FI doesn't talk about the wedding to them. They just got back from a deployment but he hasn't been around most of them since February since he was injured. I told him to just invite who he wants there and not to feel like he had to invite everyone. Wasn't sure if that was good advice or not so thanks everyone!

crownsuperstar · October 2011

Although you have an Iowa State shirt on I will answer.

JK!

We didn't do STD. I thought the invite was enough. We did send a little card to out of town guest with the hotel information on it but I would not have considered that a STD. H didn't invite hardly anyone from his shop. They all knew he was getting married but since he just transfered into that area he really was not close to a bunch of people. That was then and this is now so if we were getting married now, he would invite some of those folks since is now closer to more of them.

Zimsgirl · October 2011

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[QUOTE]Although you have an Iowa State shirt on I will answer. JK! We didn't do STD. I thought the invite was enough. We did send a little card to out of town guest with the hotel information on it but I would not have considered that a STD. H didn't invite hardly anyone from his shop. They all knew he was getting married but since he just transfered into that area he really was not close to a bunch of people. That was then and this is now so if we were getting married now, he would invite some of those folks since is now closer to more of them.
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
HAHA Whats you school?

crownsuperstar · October 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest List Question : HAHA Whats you school?
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

My dad, grand father, aunt and cousin all went to Iowa. ISU was on a ban list for me when choosing colleges. HA!!! I didn't go to Iowa but I do cheer for them. We moved from Iowa when I was really young but I do go back as we tons of family friends there.

Edit- How is the fund raising thing going?

Zimsgirl · October 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest List Question : My dad, grand father, aunt and cousin all went to Iowa. ISU was on a ban list for me when choosing colleges. HA!!! I didn't go to Iowa but I do cheer for them. We moved from Iowa when I was really young but I do go back as we tons of family friends there. Edit- How is the fund raising thing going?
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
Boo Iowa ;) My mom actually went to pharmacy school there.<div>Our support group is interesting to say the least. I almost quit because they didn't want to be professional with fundraising and we had different views on some terms I'll say. They said we should wait til second semester but I doubt we'll do it at all :(</div>

crownsuperstar · October 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest List Question : Boo Iowa ;) My mom actually went to pharmacy school there. Our support group is interesting to say the least. I almost quit because they didn't want to be professional with fundraising and we had different views on some terms I'll say. They said we should wait til second semester but I doubt we'll do it at all :(
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]

HAA!!! Yeah yeah yeah!! Y'all got them this year just wait until next. HAA

That sucks! It is so hard to get a group of people on the same page about things. Good luck!

Zimsgirl · October 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guest List Question : HAA!!! Yeah yeah yeah!! Y'all got them this year just wait until next. HAA That sucks! It is so hard to get a group of people on the same page about things. Good luck!
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
Thanks. FI and I were tailgating because we didn't have Texas and he was like all right I am never missing that game again lol. We're getting season tickets for wrestling so that should be a good match too.

ShawnaM83 · October 2011

My reply to the question is to follow everyone else's advice. Can't really add much. Yes, squadrons, battalions, flights - whatever your branch calls it - are close groups during deployments, but at home there are closer-knit groups within the larger group. People who aren't in the smaller circle of friends should be mature enough to recognize there are financial restraints involved in planning a wedding and won't take offense to not recieving an invite.

And my other reason for posting tonight - GO HAWKEYES!

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