This is both our second marriage. We are having a destination wedding.
We are getting married 1st here, civilly, locally in the courts then off to Mexico for a symbolic/ renewal of our vows ceremony.
We aren't inviting to the civil except to our immediate family. Then to a small celebratory dinner.
As for the destination wedding we invited our close family and choice friends.
We want to send a "notice" in the mail, but prior to the wedding. And is not an invite.
How should the words read? Should it be an announcement style format???
Please help, all comments are welcome.
Re: Invitation/announcement
I was having the same thought as you, that I wanted to send out announcements BEFORE the actual wedding day. Although I read that it should be sent after. However, I feel that the loved ones close to us (who we cannot invite due to our small 25p wedding) would already hear about our upcoming day. If they did not receive any kind of message from us, I feel that would be more rude. Because of course I'm not going to say "We're planning our day! But we aren't inviting you!!" and someone might be waiting for their invitation in the mail, only for it never to come.
Personally, I'd be kind of hurt only to receive the announcement after. I feel that perhaps sending it beforehand lets people know that if you could, you would invite them. And that taking the time to send them a proper notice (such as using nice printed stationary, perhaps a short note to them specifically) lets them know you care and will be thinking of them on that day.
I don't know tho, what do you other guys think?
Also I think it's perfectly fine to consider you ceremony in Mexico as a "destination wedding".
That's what I'm doing!
"Joe Smith & Jane Doe
will join in marriage
on January 1, 2028
in small/intimate ceremony with their families.
Although we are not able to be together on this happy day,
you will be with us in our hearts.
Love, Joe & Jane"
This is why announcements should be sent, just after the event has taken place.
Sending an announcement or a non-vitation before hand is like dangling something in front of them "look at this party we're throwing!" but not extending it to the recipient. Doing so afterwards is considered more polite and not rude.
This is extremely rude. It's pretty much rubbing it in the person's face that you're getting married but they're not invited. Send the announcement immediately after the wedding.
To CMGr: I don't think comparing getting married to an 8th birthday party is logical. I don't appreciate the way I have seen you handle yourself in this topic, towards myself and others. I would be mindful of that, as you are coming off very rude (yet are telling me to not be rude in return). However, I understand and I will follow the way to do my best towards others. Thank you.
Thank you all again!