Dessert

SunriseAmber · May 2013

My Fiance's family is telling us that we should have more than cupcakes for dessert at the wedding. We are having about 50 guests (mostly family and really close friends) and plan on having 1 1/2 cupcakes per person. Should I have another type of dessert?

Maggie0829 · May 2013

No you do not have to have another type of dessert. We only had cupcakes for our wedding. Nothing else. I have been to weddings that just had cake for dessert and others that had a full out spread of every type of dessert under the sun. One was not better then the other. As long as I am provided something sweet after dinner I am happy.

If you would like to add some other desserts you can but you have to make sure that you provided enough of each item for every single guest. If that is not within your budget or you just don't want to do it, the cupcakes will be plenty.

SunriseAmber · May 2013

Thank you for your advice. I don't really think it's in our budget so we will just stick to the cupcakes like you suggested. Thanks again.

kipnus · May 2013

I think most people expect cake or cupcakes when they go to a wedding. You're fine.

Maggie0829 · May 2013

@Sleeper2013 yes having more then one dessert is nice and so is having more then one entree option but sometimes that is not possible. If the budget doesn't allow for options there is nothing wrong or against etiquette with only providing one type of dessert or entree. Variety is great but certainly not required as long as your guests are hosted properly.

allispain · May 2013

Just cupcakes is fine - and it's good that you're already planning to do the 1.5 cupcakes per person, since you'll likely have people who want seconds!

Maggie0829 · May 2013

@Sleeper2013 Gee thanks for pointing that out, I had no clue **rolling eyes**. I was mearly saying that having only one option is not a bad thing and that OP should not feel bad if she cannot offer more. Yes, you may prefer more then one option but, like I said, sometimes that isn't a possibility and I wanted to assure OP that not having more then one option is not rude.

SunriseAmber · May 2013

Thank you for your responses. I am only going to go with the cupcakes.

And wait....what??

Sleeper2013 said:

. Also, I don't heed food and beverage etiquette advice from someone who served themselves better quality consumables than they served their guests at their own wedding.

Maggie0829 · May 2013

Sleeper2013 said:

@Sleeper2013 Gee thanks for pointing that out, I had no clue **rolling eyes**. I was mearly saying that having only one option is not a bad thing and that OP should not feel bad if she cannot offer more. Yes, you may prefer more then one option but, like I said, sometimes that isn't a possibility and I wanted to assure OP that not having more then one option is not rude.
I'd like for you to point out where exactly I said only offering one option is rude. Technically, a hotdog, bag of chips, can of coke, and a candy bar would meet the criteria for meeting wedding meal etiquette. That doesn't make it good or thoughtful hosting. Also, I don't heed food and beverage etiquette advice from someone who served themselves better quality consumables than they served their guests at their own wedding.

I never said that you said it was rude. I was just telling OP that serving one option is not rude and that even though you may want or like additional options that serving only one option is not a bad thing. Again never said that you said it was rude.

And get the fuck over the alcohol thing. What would you like me to do, build a time machine and go back 2 years and have my H spit back up the grey goose in the bottle? Seriously, time to move on.

OP, what happened was that the venue provided a bottle of grey goose for my husband at our wedding. We did not request it at all. My H was able to get himself a grey goose and whatever if he wanted it. It was one of those perks that the venue provided to us that we really didn't even think was a big deal or even really thought about all that much or even considered rude because we were still providing our guests with alcohol. Every one was provided vodka (as well as a variety of other alcohol) so it wasn't like H was the only one able to drink vodka all night long while everyone else had to drink drink water. But apparently on here even having a small cake on top of a cupcake tower is considered rude because you aren't offering slices of cake to every guest as well as the cupcakes even though it is the same damn cake.

SunriseAmber · May 2013

I don't see the problem with what happened at your wedding. Nothing about that seems rude. Plus, that was a long time ago.. wtf?

Maggie0829 · May 2013

@SunriseAmber I still really don't see a problem with it either. Now if we had hosted beer and wine and only my H was offered vodka then yeah I could definitely see that being wrong and rude because then the couple is being served something that isn't being offered to the rest of the guests. But I guess to me vodka is vodka because I am not knowledgable about the different kinds so whether I get grey goose or stoli or smirnoff I wouldn't be able to tell the difference or really care, which is why at the time and even now I really don't give it a second thought.

KellyVarellas26 · May 2013

I think cupcakes are enough. You should be fine!

Jen4948 · May 2013

Cupcakes by themselves are fine.

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