I have been very fortunate to have little to no stress with my wedding planning. However, there is one issue that has arisen, and I would greatly appreciate some input and advice from you lovely ladies.
My fiance has a brother that he is not close with at all, they rarely speak and he has never even spoken to me in the 8 years I have been with my fiance. We wanted to keep our wedding party small and each will have 4 standing with us. My fiance chose his 4 closest friends, and we thought nothing of it. Until, my future mother in law began insisting how important it is for family to be involved, and that she feels he should ask his brother to be a groomsmen, even though he doesn't want to. My biggest issue is that she never discusses it with my fiance, only me. Part of me feels that it is because she knows if she asks him about it, he will just get upset with her and will make him less likely to do what she wants him to do, but if I try and make him then he will do it... I am not forcing him to do that. So I have been thinking of alternative roles for his brother to play. People have suggested an usher, but all the grandparents with the exception of my fiance's grandmother have living spouses to walk them down the aisle ( and I planned on him walking with her anyways) so there is really no need to have an usher. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. I would love to come to something that would keep the peace. I have really enjoyed planning my wedding thus far with both sides of the family and hope to keep it that way! sorry for the long post!!!