So. I have a sorority sister getting married July 20 in NJ. She is a close sister and dear friend. My FI also has a good friend getting married the same day! Our RSVP date is coming up close for both of them and we're at a loss. The receptions are an hour driving distance apart. My friends ceremony is at 230 and reception at 530. FI friends ceremony starts at 4 with reception following after. I told my FI that I can go to my friends and he can go to his. He doesn't want to do that because he doesn't want to go stag. Thinks it would be "uncomfortable" for him. I thought maybe we could swing both but then that's money out of their pockets we'd be wasting and I would feel awful leaving one for the other. We'd have to leave right after the ceremony ends for my inspirations, drive an hour, then see go to his friends ceremony and reception and possibly then leaving and returning to my inspirations reception. It's a lot of driving and I think it would be disrespectful to either party.
I've been waiting for my inspiration (sorority sister) to get engaged and was looking forward to her wedding. Josh's friend, whom I've never met, dated his FI for literally 3 weeks before proposing to her less than a year ago. My FI seems "eh" about going to his friend's and when they got engaged, he said somethings about it. My FI is hard to read and I can't actually tell if he wants to go. He would never tell me. . Need some help. Has anyone had the same situation and what did you do or what would you do?