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NER: So someone spilled the beans...

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edited June 2013 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
I'm getting married next week (SQUEEEEEE!!) and my aunt (who's not really my aunt, but I call her aunt...) happened to stop by where I work to say hi. When she left she said "See you Wednesday!", to which I was like... what's on Wednesday. "Your bridal shower of course!" Say what?! Had no idea anyone was planning me one! Apparently it was a surprise... she felt pretty bad for ruining it. I'm not mad she ruined the surprise, frankly I'm not a fan of surprise parties because I like to be able to plan accordingly, but whatever.

What I'm worried about is the fact that my mom, who's hosting it, still thinks that I have no idea, and I am a TERRIBLE faker... like chances are, I'll come in and it'll be like that episode of Friends where Monica turns 30 and they have a surprise party for her and she's drunk and shrieks with very obvious fake surprise... except I won't be drunk... I hope someone gets that reference... I'm just bad at faking surprise. Which is why I hate them, because 9 times out of 10 I find out about the surprise by accident and then I have to come up with a BS reaction... oivey...
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I'm curious-how do you know your mother is hosting it if it was supposed to be a surprise?  Did you know some of the details in advance, but just not the date or time?

    Your best course of action might not be to fake surprise, but just smile and be excited.
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    meh I don't think I'd fake a BS reaction.  The story will come out during the shower about how your aunt accidentally told you and you'll all get a laugh out of it.  I don't think you need to outright tell your mom you know, or anything, (let her have her fun), but just walk in smiling.  You may still be surprised by who's there, if there's a theme, etc.  so just be natural.

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    Just go in and give a big smile and thank you and enjoy the party. If mom askes if you were surprised, you can tell her yes because you were surprised that anyone was having a bridal shower for you, you just don't necessarily have to tell her that you were surprised a week prior to the party.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Yea, don't fake the surprise. People will probably ask you if you were surprised, though. I wouldn't lie. You could say something like, "I thought something was up, but this is just too much - you guys are so great!! Is that bean dip over there homemade?" to shift the focus back to the party and not call out your aunt for spilling the beans.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I completely agree with pp that you'll be better off not faking surprise.
    Just let your reaction be normal.
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  • MoonlightSilverMoonlightSilver member
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    You can still be pleasantly surprised to see who is at the shower when you show up. You can also pretend that excitement is surprise. 
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  • yellowrose314yellowrose314 member
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    Jen4948 said:
    I'm curious-how do you know your mother is hosting it if it was supposed to be a surprise?  Did you know some of the details in advance, but just not the date or time?

    Your best course of action might not be to fake surprise, but just smile and be excited.
    When I got home I was telling my roommate about it, who admitted that my mom was hosting the shower.

    Thanks for the advice ladies; I'll have no problem being excited!
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  • allychaseallychase member
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    My story is great. I told my MOH I didn't want it to be a surprise, my SIL hijacked planning from my MOH and made it a surprise. My stepdad spilled the beans on the date and my MIL asked if I knew when it was, and I'm a horrible liar so I just admitted my stepdad told me by accident. She proceeded to act like I never told her anything and kept acting like it was a surprise! It was SOOOO awkward the day of my shower when after church ended she told me and H to meet them at the restaurant "to discuss the rehearsal dinner" I wanted to be like, but wait, I told you I know what's going on... Oh well.

    I went and smiled big when everyone said surprise and had a great day.
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    yellowrose314 said:
    I'm getting married next week (SQUEEEEEE!!) and my aunt (who's not really my aunt, but I call her aunt...) happened to stop by where I work to say hi. When she left she said "See you Wednesday!", to which I was like... what's on Wednesday. "Your bridal shower of course!" Say what?! Had no idea anyone was planning me one! Apparently it was a surprise... she felt pretty bad for ruining it. I'm not mad she ruined the surprise, frankly I'm not a fan of surprise parties because I like to be able to plan accordingly, but whatever.

    What I'm worried about is the fact that my mom, who's hosting it, still thinks that I have no idea, and I am a TERRIBLE faker... like chances are, I'll come in and it'll be like that episode of Friends where Monica turns 30 and they have a surprise party for her and she's drunk and shrieks with very obvious fake surprise... except I won't be drunk... I hope someone gets that reference... I'm just bad at faking surprise. Which is why I hate them, because 9 times out of 10 I find out about the surprise by accident and then I have to come up with a BS reaction... oivey...
    I LOL'd when I read that, because I totally know what episode you're talking about.
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  • yellowrose314yellowrose314 member
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    @aRachel21 I just noticed your avatar pic, LOVE that you got the reference ;)
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