Help to honor parents!

Re: Help to honor parents!

• manateehugger member

  

  June 2013

  I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you've found someone that can become your new family!

  
  

  The best way I've heard/seen lost loved ones honored at a wedding is to carry something of theirs. Wear your mother's earrings, wrap your dad's tie around your bouquet, carry small photos of them on your bouquet, etc. You can also put a small note in your program, if you are having programs, 

  
  

  Most people tend to think that the photo memorial tables or something similar can be slightly morbid for a wedding, so maybe steer away from those.

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2013

  The best ways to do it are to wear or carry something associated with the deceased, give them tributes in a wedding program, and to eat, drink, decorate, and entertain with things they would have enjoyed.
  
  But stay away from "memorials."  This can be too in-your-face, especially for close relatives of the deceased who were not expecting it and for whom it evokes again grief and loss.  These are not the emotions you want associated with your wedding, which should be a happy occasion.
  

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• amelia1227

  

  June 2013

  Thanks so much for the help!! I sincerely appreciate it

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• mlg78 member

  

  June 2013

  I'm carrying my dad's picture hanging from a ribbon in my bouquet so he will be with me as I walk down the aisle.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2013

  amelia1227 said:

  Thanks so much for the help!! I sincerely appreciate it

  Best wishes!
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2013

  fyrefly76 said:

  I've heard a rose in an empty chair up front (where your parents would have sat if they were alive) is a common thing.
  
  Also, I hear that about the memorial photo table, but my sister did something cool, at my suggestion.  She had framed photos on the table with the seating cards.  The photos were in black and white if the people were deceased, and they were in color if it was just close family (like the grandparents and the couple's puppy) who just couldn't travel to be at the wedding.
  

  The bolded is frowned on at TheKnot because it's too sad and in-your-face.  It reminds too much of the reason that the missing person is not there.  We don't recommend it.
  
  I'm also not wild about the black and white photos for deceased people.  I'd just use a group of photos, whether or not the persons in them were living or deceased, present or not, and not make that distinction. The place to give a tribute to the deceased is in a wedding program, not with photos or flowers on chairs.
  

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