Is it dumb to do the parent dance before the first dance?

hordol · June 2013

Is it usually always done to do the first dance first and then the parent dances, or can it also be done to do the parent dances first and then the first dance? Is the latter weird? We were thinking that is probably what we would want to do but I know it's not "typical"...

hordol · June 2013

Okay fair enough. What is there to be confused about though?

MoonlightSilver · June 2013

Are you thinking of separating the dances? We did them one after the other. Literally as the First Dance song ended, the DJ called up my dad to dance with me. If they're all in a row, I don't see why you'd feel the need to do parent dances first? And if they're not all in a row... it'd be weird if you were dancing half the night and then suddenly had your first dance, KWIM?

swimmy1988 · June 2013

I guess the confusion would be "why aren't the bride and groom dancing together first?"

hordol · June 2013

MoonlightSilver said:

Are you thinking of separating the dances? We did them one after the other. Literally as the First Dance song ended, the DJ called up my dad to dance with me. If they're all in a row, I don't see why you'd feel the need to do parent dances first? And if they're not all in a row... it'd be weird if you were dancing half the night and then suddenly had your first dance, KWIM?

We wanted to do the parent dance (we're combining them) first because the song we have chosen for our first dance song is a little long, so we were hoping to invite everyone to join us halfway through the song as a way to open up the dance floor. We didn't want to cut the song down because it's pretty, so we just wanted to invite people to dance with us. If people come and dance, we can't tell them to go sit down if we want to do our parent dance.

QueerFemme · June 2013

I also think having the parents dance first would be weird. No one is ever supposed to dance before the couple.

StarkKitten · June 2013

Peledreamsofrain · June 2013

I'd spend half the night wondering about the backscenes drama that caused the dances to be reversed, and then eye the mother to see if she looks like a scene-stealing primadonna who demanded to go first.

Seems like a natural conclusion for your guests to reach, and kind of unfair to your mom.

Simply Fated · June 2013

I've seen the parents dances happen later on in the evening. Would that be an option for you?

MuppetFan · June 2013

I would be wondering why you didn't do your dance first. I mean, I don't think it's a big deal, but from the sampling you know from this board, I think at least any woman who's been to a wedding before will be wondering the same thing. I know most men I know wouldn't have a clue

manateehugger · June 2013

I'd be a little confused too. It wouldn't make or break the wedding, obviously, but I would wonder at the reasoning behind it.

hordol · June 2013

Lol okay we will just shorten the song.

Wow, some people's minds wander very dramatically I guess.

wittykitty14 · June 2013

At my friend's wedding, they did their dances like ths: Father-daughter, mother-son, bride-groom. Why? Because it further symbolized the "giving-away" aspect of the marriage. That was basically what she told me. I thought it was lovely. The guests were all smiling happily as they watched, and no one at my table thought it was weird (even the VERY traditional person sitting with us).

But I agree with PPs too. If the only reason you were considering doing this was because of the song length, then you should just shorten it and go first

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