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Remembering our best friend...

whiggy2whiggy2
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My fiance's best friend (one of my very good friends as well) was killed in a car wreck a little over a month ago...just around the time that we got engaged! All of the boys on his side were rather close to him and I would like to find a way to incorporate him some how. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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  • whiggy2whiggy2
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    I bet it was! Thank you so much for sharing! :)
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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    What happened In PrincessNickyJ13's circumstances aren't necessarily right for every situation. As much as you'd like to pay tribute to your friend, you don't want your wedding ceremony to feel like a memorial service.
    Can FI list him on the program as a GM with a little cross or rose next to his name? Or maybe FI can carry something of his down the aisle? Are there any songs or passages that were meaningful to him or describe him well that you may want to incorporate?
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I'm very sorry for your loss. 

    I agree with Sydaries' advice, however. I think listing him as a GM in the program would be a lovely way to honor his memory. Carry something of his, serve his favorite drink as a signature drink, etc. 
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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    Hmm, yeah I don't like the idea of making your wedding a memorial service. That would be a very sad tone to set. I like the idea of listing him on the program and perhaps an upbeat song in his memory at the reception?
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  • daubachsgirl23daubachsgirl23 member
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    I agree with PP that you don't want to cross the line of making your wedding resemble a memorial service.

     

    My grandfather and H's grandfather both passed away before our wedding.  H and I (well, really just me) gave a toast after the entrees with my grandfather's favorite drink and H's grandfather's favorite dessert.  We briefly explained what the drink and dessert were for and toasted our guests for coming.  It worked for us because we were able to pay tribute to our grandfathers without bringing the mood down.

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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Another vote for not making your wedding day a memorial service. It's supposed to be a happy day, not a sad day.

    Why not have all of his friends get together for a shot of the friend's favorite booze during the reception? Toast to your friend, don't mourn him at your wedding. Your photog would have a great photo-op.

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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Ditto Retread. Loss is so personal that you never know what could make someone out pour in emotion. 
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  • whiggy2whiggy2
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    Thanks everybody!
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