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How to address place cards?

LaurieElizabeth84LaurieElizabeth84
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Hi fellow brides/brides-to-be! I have an etiquette question that I'm hoping someone can help with.

One of my family members has completed her PHD and has a doctorate. My opinion is that her place card should be addressed 'Dr. Jane Doe,' whereas my fiance wants to address everyone as Mr. or Mrs. only. My perspective is that since she has earned her doctorate, she should be addressed as 'Dr.,' especially since she replied this way on the RSVP card.

Can anyone help clear this up for me? Thanks in advance!

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Re: How to address place cards?

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    You could just use names without titles.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Anyone with a professional or military title should be honored by addressing them that way. It's insulting to address them otherwise. 
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Yes, if you're putting a title before, you need to put "Dr." not "Mrs."  Too bad the same doesn't go for things AFTER names.  I want to be refered to as LMc0322, Esquire at everything from now on ;)
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  • LaurieElizabeth84LaurieElizabeth84
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    Thanks! It's a very formal setting, so I think the designations before the names are necessary. I agree that it's insulting to put 'Mrs.' instead of 'Dr.' I know that if I ever earned a doctorate, I'd want to be addressed as such and recognized for it! (That's never going to happen, but still!)
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    Retread has quoted the traditional historical etiquette for you, but in real life these days, I have a Ph.D. and my DH has a D.M.A., and our place cards always say Dr. for each of us.  I can't remember a time when an invitation or a place card has said MRS and MR for us. 
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    RetreadBride said:
    Only names appear on place cards unless the person is a MEDICAL doctor, a high elected official such as the president  or senator, or a high-ranking military official. 

    People with doctoral degrees are not addressed as doctor for social purposes.
    I agree with this, but if she listed herself as Dr. on the response card she'd probably feel like it was a slap in the face if you addressed her as Mrs/Ms; so I'd just go with it.

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